Alison Wood Brooks

close and connected and like i trust you and we we talked about a thing that was felt really good we felt connected i don't think we can expect that all the time and even in conversations where you walk away feeling like oh my gosh that was great If you look back at the transcript, what you would see is kind of like a train wreck. We interrupt each other all the time.

close and connected and like i trust you and we we talked about a thing that was felt really good we felt connected i don't think we can expect that all the time and even in conversations where you walk away feeling like oh my gosh that was great If you look back at the transcript, what you would see is kind of like a train wreck. We interrupt each other all the time.

close and connected and like i trust you and we we talked about a thing that was felt really good we felt connected i don't think we can expect that all the time and even in conversations where you walk away feeling like oh my gosh that was great If you look back at the transcript, what you would see is kind of like a train wreck. We interrupt each other all the time.

There's all kinds of moments of misunderstanding. We say things that we probably shouldn't. We forget to say things that we should. But there are these moments where you come together and say, wow, that felt really good. And likely, if you're feeling that way, it's likely that the other person is as well. But to your point, Mike, you never know. We really cannot read the minds of other people.

There's all kinds of moments of misunderstanding. We say things that we probably shouldn't. We forget to say things that we should. But there are these moments where you come together and say, wow, that felt really good. And likely, if you're feeling that way, it's likely that the other person is as well. But to your point, Mike, you never know. We really cannot read the minds of other people.

There's all kinds of moments of misunderstanding. We say things that we probably shouldn't. We forget to say things that we should. But there are these moments where you come together and say, wow, that felt really good. And likely, if you're feeling that way, it's likely that the other person is as well. But to your point, Mike, you never know. We really cannot read the minds of other people.

The most direct way to understand what is in someone else's head and how they felt like the conversation went is to ask them directly. Questions are the most direct pathway to learning about someone else's mind.

The most direct way to understand what is in someone else's head and how they felt like the conversation went is to ask them directly. Questions are the most direct pathway to learning about someone else's mind.

The most direct way to understand what is in someone else's head and how they felt like the conversation went is to ask them directly. Questions are the most direct pathway to learning about someone else's mind.

Yeah, I know. I've heard that about Bill Clinton as well. There are people in the world who have developed conversation as a skill. And it's very easy to look at someone like Bill Clinton and think, boy, he is gifted. He is a gifted, natural conversationalist. He has this charisma. He's really good at connecting with people. And maybe it's effortless for him.

Yeah, I know. I've heard that about Bill Clinton as well. There are people in the world who have developed conversation as a skill. And it's very easy to look at someone like Bill Clinton and think, boy, he is gifted. He is a gifted, natural conversationalist. He has this charisma. He's really good at connecting with people. And maybe it's effortless for him.

Yeah, I know. I've heard that about Bill Clinton as well. There are people in the world who have developed conversation as a skill. And it's very easy to look at someone like Bill Clinton and think, boy, he is gifted. He is a gifted, natural conversationalist. He has this charisma. He's really good at connecting with people. And maybe it's effortless for him.

And when you look at someone like Bill Clinton, who just seems charismatic and so good at connecting with people, such a great listener, it can make you feel bad about yourself. Like, what am I not doing right here? What is this thing that he's so good at? Which I call the myth of naturalness.

And when you look at someone like Bill Clinton, who just seems charismatic and so good at connecting with people, such a great listener, it can make you feel bad about yourself. Like, what am I not doing right here? What is this thing that he's so good at? Which I call the myth of naturalness.

And when you look at someone like Bill Clinton, who just seems charismatic and so good at connecting with people, such a great listener, it can make you feel bad about yourself. Like, what am I not doing right here? What is this thing that he's so good at? Which I call the myth of naturalness.

Even for someone like Bill Clinton, what you can't see are all the many experiences that he's had in his life that led him to this place where he became such a good communicator. And you can't see all of the effort that he's putting in to every conversation to make sure that his partners are feeling so understood and loved and listened to and charmed and delighted.

Even for someone like Bill Clinton, what you can't see are all the many experiences that he's had in his life that led him to this place where he became such a good communicator. And you can't see all of the effort that he's putting in to every conversation to make sure that his partners are feeling so understood and loved and listened to and charmed and delighted.

Even for someone like Bill Clinton, what you can't see are all the many experiences that he's had in his life that led him to this place where he became such a good communicator. And you can't see all of the effort that he's putting in to every conversation to make sure that his partners are feeling so understood and loved and listened to and charmed and delighted.

If you were to ask Bill Clinton, my guess would be that he thinks about people a lot when he's not together with them. He thinks about what topics he needs to bring up with them once they're together.

If you were to ask Bill Clinton, my guess would be that he thinks about people a lot when he's not together with them. He thinks about what topics he needs to bring up with them once they're together.