Alison Wood Brooks

And if we can aim to make some of those choices just a little bit more effectively, because we talk to people so often and every day across every domain of our lives, in accumulation, if you can make some of those choices more effectively, that's going to have a massive impact on your life, on your career, on your family, on your love life, all of it.

And so the whole sort of premise of this book is how can we learn to make some of those micro choices more effectively?

And so the whole sort of premise of this book is how can we learn to make some of those micro choices more effectively?

And so the whole sort of premise of this book is how can we learn to make some of those micro choices more effectively?

Oh my goodness. What a profound question. First of all, thank you for sharing that with me. I think there are a lot of people who struggle with communication and you're not alone in it.

Oh my goodness. What a profound question. First of all, thank you for sharing that with me. I think there are a lot of people who struggle with communication and you're not alone in it.

Oh my goodness. What a profound question. First of all, thank you for sharing that with me. I think there are a lot of people who struggle with communication and you're not alone in it.

Actually, some of the people that I've talked to are people who are in the deaf community also find that they work so hard at communicating that they too put such a value on developing it as a skill in the same way that it sounds like you've been working hard for much of your life to develop communication as a skill. So your question is, how can we think about the way that we communicate?

Actually, some of the people that I've talked to are people who are in the deaf community also find that they work so hard at communicating that they too put such a value on developing it as a skill in the same way that it sounds like you've been working hard for much of your life to develop communication as a skill. So your question is, how can we think about the way that we communicate?

Actually, some of the people that I've talked to are people who are in the deaf community also find that they work so hard at communicating that they too put such a value on developing it as a skill in the same way that it sounds like you've been working hard for much of your life to develop communication as a skill. So your question is, how can we think about the way that we communicate?

How does that relate to us mattering? It's such a profound question. I think one thing that I've learned by doing this research and teaching this course about conversation is that

How does that relate to us mattering? It's such a profound question. I think one thing that I've learned by doing this research and teaching this course about conversation is that

How does that relate to us mattering? It's such a profound question. I think one thing that I've learned by doing this research and teaching this course about conversation is that

Our evidence to ourselves and to other people that we matter and that they matter, the place where that happens is so often during our conversations and in these little tiny moments where we make small choices that show, oh, I believe in myself. or I believe in you.

Our evidence to ourselves and to other people that we matter and that they matter, the place where that happens is so often during our conversations and in these little tiny moments where we make small choices that show, oh, I believe in myself. or I believe in you.

Our evidence to ourselves and to other people that we matter and that they matter, the place where that happens is so often during our conversations and in these little tiny moments where we make small choices that show, oh, I believe in myself. or I believe in you.

And the difference between like micro kindnesses and micro harms, sometimes when you're looking at a transcript, they look very subtle, but I think in the emotional experience of those interactions, the difference can be massive in terms of how much you are conveying that you believe that you matter and how much you care about the other person and convey that they matter.

And the difference between like micro kindnesses and micro harms, sometimes when you're looking at a transcript, they look very subtle, but I think in the emotional experience of those interactions, the difference can be massive in terms of how much you are conveying that you believe that you matter and how much you care about the other person and convey that they matter.

And the difference between like micro kindnesses and micro harms, sometimes when you're looking at a transcript, they look very subtle, but I think in the emotional experience of those interactions, the difference can be massive in terms of how much you are conveying that you believe that you matter and how much you care about the other person and convey that they matter.

Oh my goodness. Well, congratulations on being engaged. I heard the word fiance in there. And I think you're right in sharing that story about coming home at the end of the day. And of course we're tired when we get home. So there are going to be moments when you It's hard to maintain continuous attention on another person, but we always have to remind ourselves that attention is a gift.