Alison Wood Brooks

Yes, Rachel Greenwald, I think she's amazing. She's sort of the grand poobah of professional matchmakers. She started out her career as a matchmaker, and then she had so much success that she started training other matchmakers to do this job. And she said to me, we have a phrase for people who don't ask questions.

Yes, Rachel Greenwald, I think she's amazing. She's sort of the grand poobah of professional matchmakers. She started out her career as a matchmaker, and then she had so much success that she started training other matchmakers to do this job. And she said to me, we have a phrase for people who don't ask questions.

Yes, Rachel Greenwald, I think she's amazing. She's sort of the grand poobah of professional matchmakers. She started out her career as a matchmaker, and then she had so much success that she started training other matchmakers to do this job. And she said to me, we have a phrase for people who don't ask questions.

When you think of people who ask zero questions, especially on a date, we call them ZQs, zero questioners. And there's this quote, she says, you know, they say curiosity killed the cat, but on a date, curiosity does not kill the date. In fact, the ZQ kills the date.

When you think of people who ask zero questions, especially on a date, we call them ZQs, zero questioners. And there's this quote, she says, you know, they say curiosity killed the cat, but on a date, curiosity does not kill the date. In fact, the ZQ kills the date.

When you think of people who ask zero questions, especially on a date, we call them ZQs, zero questioners. And there's this quote, she says, you know, they say curiosity killed the cat, but on a date, curiosity does not kill the date. In fact, the ZQ kills the date.

That's right.

That's right.

That's right.

Boomer asking is not people over 50 who ask questions. It's named after the arc of a boomerang. And so imagine you're throwing a boomerang and the boomerang has this arc that goes out and then comes around and comes right back to you.

Boomer asking is not people over 50 who ask questions. It's named after the arc of a boomerang. And so imagine you're throwing a boomerang and the boomerang has this arc that goes out and then comes around and comes right back to you.

Boomer asking is not people over 50 who ask questions. It's named after the arc of a boomerang. And so imagine you're throwing a boomerang and the boomerang has this arc that goes out and then comes around and comes right back to you.

And the structure of boomer asking is you ask a question to your partner, you let them answer the question, but then you bring the focus of the conversation right back to yourself. So it would be as if I said to you, Shankar, how was your weekend?

And the structure of boomer asking is you ask a question to your partner, you let them answer the question, but then you bring the focus of the conversation right back to yourself. So it would be as if I said to you, Shankar, how was your weekend?

And the structure of boomer asking is you ask a question to your partner, you let them answer the question, but then you bring the focus of the conversation right back to yourself. So it would be as if I said to you, Shankar, how was your weekend?

Ooh, well, I actually went skydiving with Harry Styles and it was terrific. So you let your partner answer, but then you almost ignore what they share with you and you bring the focus right back to yourself. It makes your partner feel like you weren't interested in their answer in the first place. You were just asking as a way to set up your own disclosure. It's a sort of thinly veiled way to...

Ooh, well, I actually went skydiving with Harry Styles and it was terrific. So you let your partner answer, but then you almost ignore what they share with you and you bring the focus right back to yourself. It makes your partner feel like you weren't interested in their answer in the first place. You were just asking as a way to set up your own disclosure. It's a sort of thinly veiled way to...

Ooh, well, I actually went skydiving with Harry Styles and it was terrific. So you let your partner answer, but then you almost ignore what they share with you and you bring the focus right back to yourself. It makes your partner feel like you weren't interested in their answer in the first place. You were just asking as a way to set up your own disclosure. It's a sort of thinly veiled way to...

hide your own selfishness, your own egocentrism.

hide your own selfishness, your own egocentrism.