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to all of my friends within Greek life spreading horrible rumors about me because now that I had changed my tune and wasn't fawning anymore and had cut off all communication with him and had spoken to the fraternity president, was doing my rape kit, getting things in motion, coming to terms and owning that what had happened to me was rape, he was mad.

And I think it was a case of, if she's going to take me down, I'm taking her down with me.

I think the fraternity president spoke to him and was like, hey, this is not going to happen.

We can't have you in our fraternity.

So I think it tipped him off.

Title IX, they were the ones that suggested that I get a no contact directive.

It was basically like you have no recourse for what he's doing right now.

But if you get this no contact directive signed and we can get him to sign it, it'll benefit you both.

It's like the school's version of a restraining order, more like a gag order.

Yes, apparently, which is something I didn't even really consider at the time.

That's the first time that I heard the phrase due process.

If I never have to hear that phrase again, it will be too soon.

Because so much about this is packaged as due process, but it's not.

It's really like perpetrator perks, right?

He also has rights and we have to be respectful of those rights and treat you both equally.

The no contact order went into effect fairly quickly after I filed my Title IX formal complaint.

He was breaking that agreement pretty much from the moment he signed it.

After the no contact agreement was signed, he was still running around telling anyone who would listen what a crazy slut I was and why would she do this to me.

My pledge sister, he was Snapchat messaging her about what a crazy whore I was.

Users of Snapchat will know that if you screenshot something, it will notify the user, which I think is a good safety feature to have.