Allison Holker

the vulnerability that women go through, especially in the dance community, where we look up to our teachers and we just trust them. And dance can be very physical. It can be very sexual, even at young age. And that was taken advantage of. And it really, it tore me apart for a lot of years because I felt like it was my fault.

the vulnerability that women go through, especially in the dance community, where we look up to our teachers and we just trust them. And dance can be very physical. It can be very sexual, even at young age. And that was taken advantage of. And it really, it tore me apart for a lot of years because I felt like it was my fault.

I felt like it was my fault because how could it have gotten to that place? I must have done something wrong. And I felt so much shame in who I was. And I was so embarrassed. And to this day, it's one of those things, man, if I would have just spoke out for myself, maybe I could have built myself back up and helped other young girls too to not let that happen. But I felt a lot of shame in myself.

I felt like it was my fault because how could it have gotten to that place? I must have done something wrong. And I felt so much shame in who I was. And I was so embarrassed. And to this day, it's one of those things, man, if I would have just spoke out for myself, maybe I could have built myself back up and helped other young girls too to not let that happen. But I felt a lot of shame in myself.

And it was really hard for me to work through that for so many years. And I'm proud of myself now to be able to like kind of own that, that it wasn't me. I was taken advantage of. But I wish it did not happen to anyone. I don't know why people do things like that. But I didn't at that time stick up for myself because I was so vulnerable. And I thought and blamed me for years.

And it was really hard for me to work through that for so many years. And I'm proud of myself now to be able to like kind of own that, that it wasn't me. I was taken advantage of. But I wish it did not happen to anyone. I don't know why people do things like that. But I didn't at that time stick up for myself because I was so vulnerable. And I thought and blamed me for years.

I blamed myself for years. And I'll... For myself, when I had my daughter, I realized that I need to build her up to like if anything ever happened to her, come to someone, come to me, come to someone you feel safe with and say this was wrong. And that shouldn't have ever happened.

I blamed myself for years. And I'll... For myself, when I had my daughter, I realized that I need to build her up to like if anything ever happened to her, come to someone, come to me, come to someone you feel safe with and say this was wrong. And that shouldn't have ever happened.

And I questioned it for a long time with this book because there's already so many other things that I'm kind of an advocate for and a face of. And I've I've had to deal with so many griefs and bringing something that up was it was a really trying conversation to have with myself if I wanted to put that out there.

And I questioned it for a long time with this book because there's already so many other things that I'm kind of an advocate for and a face of. And I've I've had to deal with so many griefs and bringing something that up was it was a really trying conversation to have with myself if I wanted to put that out there.

Not because I don't want to be honest, but just it's a lot emotionally to put some of that out there. But then I realized that was kind of the beginning of me becoming so independent and strong and realizing that I won't ever let someone take anything else from me ever again.

Not because I don't want to be honest, but just it's a lot emotionally to put some of that out there. But then I realized that was kind of the beginning of me becoming so independent and strong and realizing that I won't ever let someone take anything else from me ever again.

Yeah. And that was a really powerful moment for us because she didn't know. And I realized until I was writing this book, I had never talked with her about that. And it was really important for me to share with her what my experience was and that I do not believe for myself that I handled it the right way. And I don't believe that I should have ever felt so much shame for myself.

Yeah. And that was a really powerful moment for us because she didn't know. And I realized until I was writing this book, I had never talked with her about that. And it was really important for me to share with her what my experience was and that I do not believe for myself that I handled it the right way. And I don't believe that I should have ever felt so much shame for myself.

But it was a real feeling that a lot of women feel. And so I wanted to share it with her. And I also think it humanized me to my daughter a lot, that something could happen to me and that at that moment, I don't feel like I stood up for myself. And my daughter always tells people that she looks up to me so much for how strong I've been through everything.

But it was a real feeling that a lot of women feel. And so I wanted to share it with her. And I also think it humanized me to my daughter a lot, that something could happen to me and that at that moment, I don't feel like I stood up for myself. And my daughter always tells people that she looks up to me so much for how strong I've been through everything.

And I think it was important for her to see that there are things I've gone through in my life that I now look back on that. I'm like, I could have probably done something different. I don't regret anything. But I could have probably moved differently if I had spoke out to someone, if I had talked to someone, if I stood my ground and saw the strength that I really am and

And I think it was important for her to see that there are things I've gone through in my life that I now look back on that. I'm like, I could have probably done something different. I don't regret anything. But I could have probably moved differently if I had spoke out to someone, if I had talked to someone, if I stood my ground and saw the strength that I really am and

saw that as something powerful. And so it's really empowered us as a unit together that I share those kinds of stories with her.

saw that as something powerful. And so it's really empowered us as a unit together that I share those kinds of stories with her.