Allison Holker

with their daughter or their son or even their partner or you know they don't have to do it publicly in a big platform but sometimes just having that conversation like you said can just really bond you with someone as well well i think for me what i've also realized as a parent is i didn't realize how much my kids were looking at me as like a hero which is so beautiful and i think there's a lot of strength to that yeah and they looked at me and my daughter said to me one time she was like you just are so perfect

with their daughter or their son or even their partner or you know they don't have to do it publicly in a big platform but sometimes just having that conversation like you said can just really bond you with someone as well well i think for me what i've also realized as a parent is i didn't realize how much my kids were looking at me as like a hero which is so beautiful and i think there's a lot of strength to that yeah and they looked at me and my daughter said to me one time she was like you just are so perfect

And that was when the realization was like, but I'm not. I have so many flaws, but the flaws make me beautiful. But I realized that our kids look at us and if we don't share some of these things that we've experienced or decisions that we've made that maybe don't come as like the best outcome, you know, if we don't share with them enough, we don't look real sometimes to them.

And that was when the realization was like, but I'm not. I have so many flaws, but the flaws make me beautiful. But I realized that our kids look at us and if we don't share some of these things that we've experienced or decisions that we've made that maybe don't come as like the best outcome, you know, if we don't share with them enough, we don't look real sometimes to them.

And then they start to question, well, if I had this weird thought or I thought about doing this or I did this, like maybe I'm not a good person. And so I've realized that with talking with my daughter and sharing a little bit more honest feelings about things I've done or things I've said or things I regret or things that have happened to me, then we've connected so much deeper now.

And then they start to question, well, if I had this weird thought or I thought about doing this or I did this, like maybe I'm not a good person. And so I've realized that with talking with my daughter and sharing a little bit more honest feelings about things I've done or things I've said or things I regret or things that have happened to me, then we've connected so much deeper now.

And she feels a lot more honest and vulnerable with me in the conversations and the type of things that we talk about now. And so it really has gave us this base. I don't unload onto my daughter where it feels like we need to probably set some healthy boundaries, but I give her enough of who I am that she can really feel like she can be authentically herself with me.

And she feels a lot more honest and vulnerable with me in the conversations and the type of things that we talk about now. And so it really has gave us this base. I don't unload onto my daughter where it feels like we need to probably set some healthy boundaries, but I give her enough of who I am that she can really feel like she can be authentically herself with me.

Yeah, because she knows I'm not gonna judge her. And I know that it's a trusting give where she's not gonna judge who I am either.

Yeah, because she knows I'm not gonna judge her. And I know that it's a trusting give where she's not gonna judge who I am either.

Yeah, I realized through therapy, I really was unpacking some of my past relationships and a lot of the experiences I've had with past relationships. And I had the biggest aha moment with my therapist. And she knew all along, bless her heart, she already knew, but she needed me to uncover it, that I had felt so alone for so many years growing up.

Yeah, I realized through therapy, I really was unpacking some of my past relationships and a lot of the experiences I've had with past relationships. And I had the biggest aha moment with my therapist. And she knew all along, bless her heart, she already knew, but she needed me to uncover it, that I had felt so alone for so many years growing up.

And then I always had to advocate for myself and I always had to stand tall by myself and take care of everything for myself that really I just kind of wish I could have leaned on someone. So I've been a people pleaser to so many other people my whole life because really I wanted people doing that for me. But I thought that's how I had to give love, because it was what I felt like I was missing.

And then I always had to advocate for myself and I always had to stand tall by myself and take care of everything for myself that really I just kind of wish I could have leaned on someone. So I've been a people pleaser to so many other people my whole life because really I wanted people doing that for me. But I thought that's how I had to give love, because it was what I felt like I was missing.

So I had to unpack that for a lot of years. So now I'm learning to balance myself a little bit with not being so much of a people pleaser, trying to care for everyone else.

So I had to unpack that for a lot of years. So now I'm learning to balance myself a little bit with not being so much of a people pleaser, trying to care for everyone else.

Let them sometimes care for me and take care of me sometimes, because that's really where stronger relationships are even built, is the balance and the ebb and flow of letting someone else kind of carry your weight sometimes too.

Let them sometimes care for me and take care of me sometimes, because that's really where stronger relationships are even built, is the balance and the ebb and flow of letting someone else kind of carry your weight sometimes too.

Well, I had to unpack so much, like I was a single mom. Going back to LA, I was also kind of embarrassed. I had moved back to Utah. I did everything I said I wasn't gonna do. I was gonna move to LA and be this big dancer, but then I had a child and moved home. So I had to unpack like, okay, will people accept me again? Can I do it while being a mother?

Well, I had to unpack so much, like I was a single mom. Going back to LA, I was also kind of embarrassed. I had moved back to Utah. I did everything I said I wasn't gonna do. I was gonna move to LA and be this big dancer, but then I had a child and moved home. So I had to unpack like, okay, will people accept me again? Can I do it while being a mother?