Alyssa Nobriga

self-repetuating if we're not conscious of it.

self-repetuating if we're not conscious of it.

self-repetuating if we're not conscious of it.

I'm running away. Yeah.

I'm running away. Yeah.

I'm running away. Yeah.

I think that brings such a, like, I really hear you talking about self-awareness, which is key. And as you're talking, I'm also thinking when people take it personal because somebody doesn't like them, it's so clear to me having worked as a psychotherapist with couples, I was like, it has nothing to do with you. It's all about, do your patterns match? I am I a puzzle piece for your wounds?

I think that brings such a, like, I really hear you talking about self-awareness, which is key. And as you're talking, I'm also thinking when people take it personal because somebody doesn't like them, it's so clear to me having worked as a psychotherapist with couples, I was like, it has nothing to do with you. It's all about, do your patterns match? I am I a puzzle piece for your wounds?

I think that brings such a, like, I really hear you talking about self-awareness, which is key. And as you're talking, I'm also thinking when people take it personal because somebody doesn't like them, it's so clear to me having worked as a psychotherapist with couples, I was like, it has nothing to do with you. It's all about, do your patterns match? I am I a puzzle piece for your wounds?

And are you for mine? It's not personal. It's just programming. And so people thinking like it, they don't like me, something's wrong with me. None of that is relevant or true. It's more about some of these safety strategies that you're talking about, which I think is helpful then to learn how to self-soothe and really regulate our own nervous system.

And are you for mine? It's not personal. It's just programming. And so people thinking like it, they don't like me, something's wrong with me. None of that is relevant or true. It's more about some of these safety strategies that you're talking about, which I think is helpful then to learn how to self-soothe and really regulate our own nervous system.

And are you for mine? It's not personal. It's just programming. And so people thinking like it, they don't like me, something's wrong with me. None of that is relevant or true. It's more about some of these safety strategies that you're talking about, which I think is helpful then to learn how to self-soothe and really regulate our own nervous system.

But you said something about co-regulating was hard for the avoidant. Are there specific practices that you found helpful for co-regulation?

But you said something about co-regulating was hard for the avoidant. Are there specific practices that you found helpful for co-regulation?

But you said something about co-regulating was hard for the avoidant. Are there specific practices that you found helpful for co-regulation?

I think it's like this bait and hook switch, right? Like you get them caught on oxytocin, dopamine, you're like, yes to them. And then you're emotionally caught so that you do the deeper healing work. And I think there's a design in it, but it's so much easier when you have the self-awareness to then not take it personally and to have the tools to meet in the middle.

I think it's like this bait and hook switch, right? Like you get them caught on oxytocin, dopamine, you're like, yes to them. And then you're emotionally caught so that you do the deeper healing work. And I think there's a design in it, but it's so much easier when you have the self-awareness to then not take it personally and to have the tools to meet in the middle.

I think it's like this bait and hook switch, right? Like you get them caught on oxytocin, dopamine, you're like, yes to them. And then you're emotionally caught so that you do the deeper healing work. And I think there's a design in it, but it's so much easier when you have the self-awareness to then not take it personally and to have the tools to meet in the middle.

and i love that we're talking about this because yes coaches therapists healers facilitators the more they like this work as we do this work it helps our relationships but if we are a service professional then we're going to be able to better hold space for our clients without our stuff getting caught in it and sometimes i'll teach attachment style with sales or i'll do nervous system regulation with sales because you know the same patterns show up where it's like

and i love that we're talking about this because yes coaches therapists healers facilitators the more they like this work as we do this work it helps our relationships but if we are a service professional then we're going to be able to better hold space for our clients without our stuff getting caught in it and sometimes i'll teach attachment style with sales or i'll do nervous system regulation with sales because you know the same patterns show up where it's like