Amala Ekpunobi

Do you feel better after having gotten no contact?

Was therapy something that influenced you in making that decision?

Let's hear her reasoning now.

We're hearing very strong language and we see this with therapy speak a lot.

I'm hearing the word abuse being thrown around.

She had said that this is mental abuse, essentially verbal abuse.

We heard the word berated come out of her mouth because her mother said, why are you wearing a blanket when it's 98 degrees outside?

And apparently went off on her over that experience.

And you just have to trust that the person is actually telling you what they actually experienced and not what their childhood brain interpreted and what is now locked into that childhood brain up until adulthood.

So this is another thing we have to think about.

And again, therapy can often be the point at which we cement these memories and like keep them in our lives as structures of trauma that will always influence us.

Or we like unpackage them, we deal with them and we come to a resolution.

And it seems like she went hardcore that way.

So how

did we get there?

Because if we really think about this memory being berated for having a blanket on when it's hot, this should be something that a therapist should pretty easily, I would say, depending on the patient, be able to work to a resolution on.

How did we not get there to where now years, decades later, we are still speaking about this moment.

I can't see the inner workings of this relationship, so I can't speak to whether or not this was abuse.

All I can ask is, does this sound like abuse?

Does it sound like something that warrants no contact?