Amala Ekpunobi

You guys can come to your conclusion on that.

And as a pregnant woman right now with a daughter, boy, do videos like this make me think like, oh my gosh, I need to be very, very careful.

careful about the things that I say to my daughter, how they're said and how we work through emotional and mental issues from childhood.

I mean, from the time that they are out of the womb, we need to be working with children on how to interpret their emotions, how to work through emotions, how to deal with when somebody has disappointed you or upset you, because I think not emotionally regulating a child is what leads to this

I mean, we are working back through her traumas is what she's calling them.

And we're going way, way, way, way, way back into childhood, which means we probably missed some emotionally like regulatory moments in development and we didn't catch them.

And maybe mom was harsh and maybe she could not meet any of the mother's standards.

And that may very well be true.

And at the very least is how she felt.

So it's something that needed to be worked through.

But my goodness, do these things leave a long standing impression on people?

all the way into adulthood.

Still something I struggle with.

So your mom said, yeah, you didn't steal that thing.

That's ridiculous.

You didn't steal that thing.

And that's not defense.

So now, boom, another wound, another notch in the belt, another thing we hold, what, in perpetuity against our mother.

She didn't...

respond to this heinous egregious action against you in the exact way that you wanted to never mind the fact that things end up where they are the person who made the accusation you know moves on and you keep your necklace and mom says that's ridiculous she didn't defend you enough so boom another scar and again how did we get through therapy and we tell these stories probably over and over and over again because a lot of times that's how therapy works these days we sit in these moments over and over and over how did we not work our way out of this one went to them and was like dude