Amanda Bauer-Frisch

you learned it isn't about winning or failing. It's about simply participating. And that being absent is the worst thing you can do. So talk a little bit about that. Yeah, I was able to participate in a TEDx event. And the title of my talk was in defense of participation trophies, which I know is a is a hot button issue for a lot of people.

you learned it isn't about winning or failing. It's about simply participating. And that being absent is the worst thing you can do. So talk a little bit about that. Yeah, I was able to participate in a TEDx event. And the title of my talk was in defense of participation trophies, which I know is a is a hot button issue for a lot of people.

And it's quick to kind of dismiss them as junk or just encouraging this everyone's a winner culture. But I know from personal experience, when I was really in the depths of grief after my husband died, it was very easy to want to just lay in bed all day and not participate in basic things in life or the community or my family.

And it's quick to kind of dismiss them as junk or just encouraging this everyone's a winner culture. But I know from personal experience, when I was really in the depths of grief after my husband died, it was very easy to want to just lay in bed all day and not participate in basic things in life or the community or my family.

And I think if we kind of reframe our thoughts around what it means to participate, you credits his success to missing over 9,000 baskets during his career. And if we take that mindset of I'm capable of doing anything if I put my mind to it and I keep trying until I get it right versus, oh, I didn't make it on the first time I tried, so I best just give up.

And I think if we kind of reframe our thoughts around what it means to participate, you credits his success to missing over 9,000 baskets during his career. And if we take that mindset of I'm capable of doing anything if I put my mind to it and I keep trying until I get it right versus, oh, I didn't make it on the first time I tried, so I best just give up.

I think that type of growth mindset could be beneficial to a lot of people. Absolutely. Yeah. But it all goes to a person's self-worth and self-esteem. Absolutely. There's a couple famous sayings. One that comes to my mind is you're the average of the five people you spend the most time with. And then whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right.

I think that type of growth mindset could be beneficial to a lot of people. Absolutely. Yeah. But it all goes to a person's self-worth and self-esteem. Absolutely. There's a couple famous sayings. One that comes to my mind is you're the average of the five people you spend the most time with. And then whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right.

And if you surround yourself with people who believe in you and see your effort, you will start to make your goals a reality. And it's not a perfect science, but it's pretty darn right. Absolutely. Or if you're in one of those funks, I think take an audit of who you're spending your time with. Maybe it's time to change those five people. Absolutely.

And if you surround yourself with people who believe in you and see your effort, you will start to make your goals a reality. And it's not a perfect science, but it's pretty darn right. Absolutely. Or if you're in one of those funks, I think take an audit of who you're spending your time with. Maybe it's time to change those five people. Absolutely.

I think if there's one thing that people can take away from my message is that participation really can be so powerful. and having positive effort in the world. I think people are very quick to give up on their own hopes and dreams because they're afraid of participation.

I think if there's one thing that people can take away from my message is that participation really can be so powerful. and having positive effort in the world. I think people are very quick to give up on their own hopes and dreams because they're afraid of participation.

And if you can take that first step towards whatever is the legacy that you want to pass on, take that first step outside of your comfort zone and see what happens. I think that could be really powerful.

And if you can take that first step towards whatever is the legacy that you want to pass on, take that first step outside of your comfort zone and see what happens. I think that could be really powerful.

Thank you very much.

Thank you very much.

Absolutely. So in 2017, I was a full time human resources manager for a large grocery store chain. And I loved my job, loved the company I worked for. And my husband and I had a one year old son. And I was in April of that year, I was four months pregnant with our second and we were eating dinner one night and my husband had a weird pain in his throat.

Absolutely. So in 2017, I was a full time human resources manager for a large grocery store chain. And I loved my job, loved the company I worked for. And my husband and I had a one year old son. And I was in April of that year, I was four months pregnant with our second and we were eating dinner one night and my husband had a weird pain in his throat.

He knew that his family had a history of heart health issues. So out of an abundance of caution, we decided to go to the emergency room just to get checked out and make sure he was okay. He was not okay. He was having an aortic dissection, which is where his aortic valve was basically was tearing in half. And he passed away about two hours after we got to the emergency room.

He knew that his family had a history of heart health issues. So out of an abundance of caution, we decided to go to the emergency room just to get checked out and make sure he was okay. He was not okay. He was having an aortic dissection, which is where his aortic valve was basically was tearing in half. And he passed away about two hours after we got to the emergency room.