Amanda Doyle

So I just need to change my behavior so that he doesn't get upset.

So I just need to change my behavior so that he doesn't get upset.

Can I ask you what the difference is between gaslighting and then two people who are in a relationship that just have a different perspective? I think part of the issue here is what seems like subtlety and like, oh, are we not allowed to have a different perspective or else we're deemed to be gaslighting? What is the hallmark of gaslighting that differentiates it from that?

Can I ask you what the difference is between gaslighting and then two people who are in a relationship that just have a different perspective? I think part of the issue here is what seems like subtlety and like, oh, are we not allowed to have a different perspective or else we're deemed to be gaslighting? What is the hallmark of gaslighting that differentiates it from that?

Can I ask you what the difference is between gaslighting and then two people who are in a relationship that just have a different perspective? I think part of the issue here is what seems like subtlety and like, oh, are we not allowed to have a different perspective or else we're deemed to be gaslighting? What is the hallmark of gaslighting that differentiates it from that?

I think of it like a tug of war where the gaslighter is pulling on this side and saying, you're ridiculous. That doesn't make sense. You never make sense. You're paranoid. And if you are pulling saying, no, I'm not here. Let me prove it to you. I'm not. Let me show you. Then that is what keeps the connection there. Whereas if the gaslightee was just like,

I think of it like a tug of war where the gaslighter is pulling on this side and saying, you're ridiculous. That doesn't make sense. You never make sense. You're paranoid. And if you are pulling saying, no, I'm not here. Let me prove it to you. I'm not. Let me show you. Then that is what keeps the connection there. Whereas if the gaslightee was just like,

I think of it like a tug of war where the gaslighter is pulling on this side and saying, you're ridiculous. That doesn't make sense. You never make sense. You're paranoid. And if you are pulling saying, no, I'm not here. Let me prove it to you. I'm not. Let me show you. Then that is what keeps the connection there. Whereas if the gaslightee was just like,

you're nuts, I don't know what you're talking about, and let go, there would be no more connection there. There would be no more of the thing that the gaslighter needs, which is to keep you hanging on, to keep you pulling.

you're nuts, I don't know what you're talking about, and let go, there would be no more connection there. There would be no more of the thing that the gaslighter needs, which is to keep you hanging on, to keep you pulling.

you're nuts, I don't know what you're talking about, and let go, there would be no more connection there. There would be no more of the thing that the gaslighter needs, which is to keep you hanging on, to keep you pulling.

And often you think you're devoted to the person, but you're actually more devoted in the relationship to the perception of yourself as good and sane.

And often you think you're devoted to the person, but you're actually more devoted in the relationship to the perception of yourself as good and sane.

And often you think you're devoted to the person, but you're actually more devoted in the relationship to the perception of yourself as good and sane.

So you realize that you can actually take that with you. You're not losing as much in letting go of the relationship as you think you stand to lose, which you think is your whole perception of yourself.

So you realize that you can actually take that with you. You're not losing as much in letting go of the relationship as you think you stand to lose, which you think is your whole perception of yourself.

So you realize that you can actually take that with you. You're not losing as much in letting go of the relationship as you think you stand to lose, which you think is your whole perception of yourself.

Yeah, we get caught in the question of whether we are justified in feeling bad as opposed to just saying, do I feel bad? And if I feel bad, it doesn't matter.

Yeah, we get caught in the question of whether we are justified in feeling bad as opposed to just saying, do I feel bad? And if I feel bad, it doesn't matter.

Yeah, we get caught in the question of whether we are justified in feeling bad as opposed to just saying, do I feel bad? And if I feel bad, it doesn't matter.