Amanda Doyle

Damn, Alexelle. You talked a little bit, Alex, earlier about self-soothing. Can we talk a little bit more about that? Because it's so fascinating to me.

And rocking yourself. We view self-soothing as for some reason, it's this thing that is appropriate for the first two years of life. And then miraculously it's not appropriate anymore as opposed to an absolutely vital tool to have for all of life.

And rocking yourself. We view self-soothing as for some reason, it's this thing that is appropriate for the first two years of life. And then miraculously it's not appropriate anymore as opposed to an absolutely vital tool to have for all of life.

And rocking yourself. We view self-soothing as for some reason, it's this thing that is appropriate for the first two years of life. And then miraculously it's not appropriate anymore as opposed to an absolutely vital tool to have for all of life.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

So the question becomes, what are your self-soothing strategies? Yes. And if your answer to that is, is I don't know or I don't have them, your actual true answer is you are having unhealthy self-soothing strategies. Because if you don't know what they are, then you're the asshole at the meeting. No, no, no, no. They exist. Everyone has them. It's not a question of do you have them or do you not?

So the question becomes, what are your self-soothing strategies? Yes. And if your answer to that is, is I don't know or I don't have them, your actual true answer is you are having unhealthy self-soothing strategies. Because if you don't know what they are, then you're the asshole at the meeting. No, no, no, no. They exist. Everyone has them. It's not a question of do you have them or do you not?

So the question becomes, what are your self-soothing strategies? Yes. And if your answer to that is, is I don't know or I don't have them, your actual true answer is you are having unhealthy self-soothing strategies. Because if you don't know what they are, then you're the asshole at the meeting. No, no, no, no. They exist. Everyone has them. It's not a question of do you have them or do you not?

It's are you aware of your self soothing strategies. And if you're not aware of what they are, you might want to, again, Alex L says, be intentional about choosing some that will work for you instead of defaulting to the ones you're no doubt already using. Because I don't know what mine are. So that definitely means it's probably working too much. It's probably being snarky and mean.

It's are you aware of your self soothing strategies. And if you're not aware of what they are, you might want to, again, Alex L says, be intentional about choosing some that will work for you instead of defaulting to the ones you're no doubt already using. Because I don't know what mine are. So that definitely means it's probably working too much. It's probably being snarky and mean.

It's are you aware of your self soothing strategies. And if you're not aware of what they are, you might want to, again, Alex L says, be intentional about choosing some that will work for you instead of defaulting to the ones you're no doubt already using. Because I don't know what mine are. So that definitely means it's probably working too much. It's probably being snarky and mean.

It's probably, you know, so I know I have them, but I have to like take a hot minute and really think through what they are and think about intentionally replacing some of them.

It's probably, you know, so I know I have them, but I have to like take a hot minute and really think through what they are and think about intentionally replacing some of them.

It's probably, you know, so I know I have them, but I have to like take a hot minute and really think through what they are and think about intentionally replacing some of them.

Just the tears. Alex, you say about crying, give it life and let it go. So is the crying itself giving life to whatever it is you're healing or mourning?

Just the tears. Alex, you say about crying, give it life and let it go. So is the crying itself giving life to whatever it is you're healing or mourning?

Just the tears. Alex, you say about crying, give it life and let it go. So is the crying itself giving life to whatever it is you're healing or mourning?

Alex, all of your work is about intergenerational healing, communal healing, and you are raising three Black girls in this... world in this country, what do you want most for them to be able to release? And what do you want most for them to be able to receive?