Amber

Pfft.

This is really shaking.

My brother is gay, my best friend and obviously will be in attendance.

My partner and I have had a lot of LGBTQ friends and our wedding will very much be a safe, inclusive space.

I would be mortified to be associated with someone who holds views like that, never mind to have them around people I love and what's meant to be a joyful day.

The issue is I didn't hear it myself and it really doesn't match up with what I know of them.

This all came through someone else and while I trust the source, there's always that doubt.

Were things taken out of context?

Was it exaggerated because everyone was drunk?

Am I judging someone based on second-hand information?

I know them five plus years and I've never seen them make any disparaging remarks about anyone.

I'd say it's really unlike them.

I'm now stuck between not wanting to include someone...

Who may be homophobic in the fear of unfairly punishing someone based on something I didn't witness.

If I retract the invite, it will absolutely cause drama.

I'm just rewriting this myself.

Absolutely cause drama and probably end the friendship entirely.

So I eat that for wanting to retract a wedding invite based on what I've heard.

Or do I own them a conversation and the benefit of the day before making such a big decision?

Love the pod.