Amelia Edelman

That's Marissa.

She says that while you and your partner are honing in on your why, ask yourselves.

What does fun look like on this trip for us?

And how can we plan that?

Once you've landed on your why, it'll give you all the information you need to choose a destination.

This is where working with a travel advisor can help, especially if you and your partner are newer to traveling or extra concerned about safety or comfort levels.

If you're a person of color, for example, what destinations won't make you feel othered?

If you're a queer couple, where will you feel confident and at ease?

Another idea, Marissa says a great tip is to ask your friends.

Pre-planning for your unique preferences is a great way to ensure that you and your partner stay on the same page.

But don't just pre-plan, pre-pay.

That's takeaway number two.

That's Jenny Wichelow, a money coach who blends financial planning with the inner work of money.

She helps couples build vision-aligned financial plans, including for travel, which isn't always cheap.

In this way, prepaying for your hotel, your flights, or even booking an all-inclusive stay means no surprise bills to bicker over while you're there.

This past March, my partner planned our first couples trip for us.

Typically, I'm the planner, so this was a real gift for me.

He chose an all-inclusive package at a spa in Quebec, Canada.

It included all meals plus one spa treatment per day.

We paid for everything up front three months in advance and got to spend our trip thinking and talking about life, not our impending bill.