Amelia Lester

You had to rely on pheromones alone.

You had to get to know them before you could judge them and discard them.

I think so, but I also think it did also mean that you wanted to seize the moment.

Do you know what I mean?

Like I think that it seemed so unlikely that maybe this person would call you and you would be home when they did or your flatmate would pass on the message or whatever it was, you know.

So in some ways it probably made you want to seize the moment.

I think there's no question that the containment, what I liked about this Substack was the discussion of the containment of your world.

You know, like the news was this thing, as you said, Claire, when you were explaining it to us that, you know, you opted into, you consumed it, you stepped away from an evening or an interaction was a specific thing and it began and it ended.

And it made me realize that I'm always chasing something

those containments in my life.

Like I'm always chasing windows of time where I can just do one thing and not look at all the other things, but it never quite works.

And I was actually thinking not to bang on about this too much, but I'm going to bang on about it more.

When I was at Bad Bunny on Saturday night and I was trying very hard to live in the moment and I did.

Because I was dancing, I was having a great time, but he plays for like two hours, which is quite a long time.

I picked up my phone at some point towards the end of it and there were news alerts about obviously the world events that had happened while I was there.

My daughter was trying to call me from where she was, which seems kind of important.

I was also getting some messages from a friend about another friend of ours with a health issue.

Like I was pulled out of that moment like that.

Whereas if I was Carolyn Bessette, and let's face it, I could be.

Oh, my God.