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Ana Marie Cox

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123 total appearances

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It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

Like they just wanted to drink less or try sobriety, but weren't interested in like the recovery journey that I'm, you know, forced to be on. I felt very protective. Yeah. I noticed my own reaction of, like, resentment. Because these people are coming by choice. They have a choice. And they can leave. While I love where I live, if I walked out the door, I don't think I'd make it back.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

Like they just wanted to drink less or try sobriety, but weren't interested in like the recovery journey that I'm, you know, forced to be on. I felt very protective. Yeah. I noticed my own reaction of, like, resentment. Because these people are coming by choice. They have a choice. And they can leave. While I love where I live, if I walked out the door, I don't think I'd make it back.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

People come and they have opinions. The metaphor of a gentrified neighborhood actually worked pretty well. In some ways. Because people have opinions about it. They're like, oh, I don't like this. Or I don't like that. Or AA's, I don't know. You know? Like, oh. But you're like, this is my home. So... This is it for me, guys. This is it.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

People come and they have opinions. The metaphor of a gentrified neighborhood actually worked pretty well. In some ways. Because people have opinions about it. They're like, oh, I don't like this. Or I don't like that. Or AA's, I don't know. You know? Like, oh. But you're like, this is my home. So... This is it for me, guys. This is it.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

People come and they have opinions. The metaphor of a gentrified neighborhood actually worked pretty well. In some ways. Because people have opinions about it. They're like, oh, I don't like this. Or I don't like that. Or AA's, I don't know. You know? Like, oh. But you're like, this is my home. So... This is it for me, guys. This is it.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

But I think where I've landed is in a place where the neighborhood and gentrification metaphors fall apart, which is that there's always room for more. This is a wonderful place. The place where I am at can be hard to be because... There's no filters. I shouldn't say there's no options to distract myself or insulate myself. They're just not as immediate.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

But I think where I've landed is in a place where the neighborhood and gentrification metaphors fall apart, which is that there's always room for more. This is a wonderful place. The place where I am at can be hard to be because... There's no filters. I shouldn't say there's no options to distract myself or insulate myself. They're just not as immediate.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

But I think where I've landed is in a place where the neighborhood and gentrification metaphors fall apart, which is that there's always room for more. This is a wonderful place. The place where I am at can be hard to be because... There's no filters. I shouldn't say there's no options to distract myself or insulate myself. They're just not as immediate.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

But I'm not losing anything by more people coming. I'm not losing anything by there being more options. No one's going to knock down the neighborhood bar, as it were, and build something fancier. No one's doing anything for my property taxes. Why be suspicious of other people's motives? Why try to tell them that they got here the wrong way?

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

But I'm not losing anything by more people coming. I'm not losing anything by there being more options. No one's going to knock down the neighborhood bar, as it were, and build something fancier. No one's doing anything for my property taxes. Why be suspicious of other people's motives? Why try to tell them that they got here the wrong way?

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

But I'm not losing anything by more people coming. I'm not losing anything by there being more options. No one's going to knock down the neighborhood bar, as it were, and build something fancier. No one's doing anything for my property taxes. Why be suspicious of other people's motives? Why try to tell them that they got here the wrong way?

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

Then you're going to feel like they know how to do it better than me, which is also like that's super annoying. Oh, yeah. There are these young, sober people that are like, I could also make money. I could commodify my sobriety in some way. I say the positive part of that, weirdly, is the actual commodity of low alcohol or non-alcohol beverages.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

Then you're going to feel like they know how to do it better than me, which is also like that's super annoying. Oh, yeah. There are these young, sober people that are like, I could also make money. I could commodify my sobriety in some way. I say the positive part of that, weirdly, is the actual commodity of low alcohol or non-alcohol beverages.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

Then you're going to feel like they know how to do it better than me, which is also like that's super annoying. Oh, yeah. There are these young, sober people that are like, I could also make money. I could commodify my sobriety in some way. I say the positive part of that, weirdly, is the actual commodity of low alcohol or non-alcohol beverages.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

And the less great part of that to me is sometimes the sobriety coaching stuff. What works for people works for people. And I don't ever want to take away something that's working for somebody. But that's also happening. It's an industry now. Coming up, what would it mean to live in a more sober culture? We Americans are going to need to like sub in stuff for a little while. Stick around.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

And the less great part of that to me is sometimes the sobriety coaching stuff. What works for people works for people. And I don't ever want to take away something that's working for somebody. But that's also happening. It's an industry now. Coming up, what would it mean to live in a more sober culture? We Americans are going to need to like sub in stuff for a little while. Stick around.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

And the less great part of that to me is sometimes the sobriety coaching stuff. What works for people works for people. And I don't ever want to take away something that's working for somebody. But that's also happening. It's an industry now. Coming up, what would it mean to live in a more sober culture? We Americans are going to need to like sub in stuff for a little while. Stick around.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

I think if nothing else, it brings a specific commodity into all social interactions. Unless you're brewing your own beer and bottling your own wine, you're basically putting a tax on your friends. I mean, that's a really good point. It costs money to drink. Let me lay another one on you about this, which is that you're also asking them to donate some of their precious brain cells.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

I think if nothing else, it brings a specific commodity into all social interactions. Unless you're brewing your own beer and bottling your own wine, you're basically putting a tax on your friends. I mean, that's a really good point. It costs money to drink. Let me lay another one on you about this, which is that you're also asking them to donate some of their precious brain cells.

It's Been a Minute
Sober-curious? Why your friends (and maybe you) are going dry.

I think if nothing else, it brings a specific commodity into all social interactions. Unless you're brewing your own beer and bottling your own wine, you're basically putting a tax on your friends. I mean, that's a really good point. It costs money to drink. Let me lay another one on you about this, which is that you're also asking them to donate some of their precious brain cells.