Andrea Dunlop

I always try and tell people I can make editorial choices about how we tell the story and what to include, but I cannot control how people react.

That's just not something that's under my control.

Yeah.

And that experience, even on the much, you know, smaller level of being on my show, which it's, you know, we're big for a podcast, but we're not talking about, you know, 9 million sort of and like all this huge major media attention that you had.

And like, you know, and I'll even talk to people who...

they really have a good intention around it.

They say, I want to share my story because I want to help other people.

And I think that's a really noble intention.

But the reality is it's not going to go well if that person's not feeling safe and supported in telling that story and feeling like they're really ready.

And what I saw with your story was really no one gave you a choice about whether or not you were ready to take on that position of being this monolithic representation of all survivors.

of Munchausen by proxy, which is not fair.

Yeah.

And, you know, as other survivors are thinking about telling their stories publicly, as they're, you know, going on social media and thinking about talking it there or if they're, you know, doing something that's sort of on a podcast or on a documentary.

I mean, what would your what kind of perspective can you offer about the choices that you might have made differently?

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Do you know what I got my husband last Christmas?

You guessed it.