André Duqum

I think in discerning between how long one stays in a relationship, whether they want to embark on that journey with somebody, we can have this over-romanticization of potential. And that's great to hold the potential of who somebody can be, but almost the expectation of it is what sucks the energy from the dynamic versus admitting the current patterns that somebody has.

I think in discerning between how long one stays in a relationship, whether they want to embark on that journey with somebody, we can have this over-romanticization of potential. And that's great to hold the potential of who somebody can be, but almost the expectation of it is what sucks the energy from the dynamic versus admitting the current patterns that somebody has.

I think in discerning between how long one stays in a relationship, whether they want to embark on that journey with somebody, we can have this over-romanticization of potential. And that's great to hold the potential of who somebody can be, but almost the expectation of it is what sucks the energy from the dynamic versus admitting the current patterns that somebody has.

And of course, if somebody's willing to grow, like if somebody has willingness to change and grow and like that is a core value and pillar between both of you, then that is probably one of the most important things. But what do you think about, yeah, that falling in love with potential over the pattern?

And of course, if somebody's willing to grow, like if somebody has willingness to change and grow and like that is a core value and pillar between both of you, then that is probably one of the most important things. But what do you think about, yeah, that falling in love with potential over the pattern?

And of course, if somebody's willing to grow, like if somebody has willingness to change and grow and like that is a core value and pillar between both of you, then that is probably one of the most important things. But what do you think about, yeah, that falling in love with potential over the pattern?

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Facts. Yeah, that's good. That's good stuff. Yeah, I think it's just such an insidious like thing too, because we don't realize we're doing it. Oftentimes, like we don't see how we're getting into a dynamic with the hope of what something might be, you know, and I feel like it's natural. And it's, it's become normalized to to try to have a savior complex or wanted to fix somebody.

Facts. Yeah, that's good. That's good stuff. Yeah, I think it's just such an insidious like thing too, because we don't realize we're doing it. Oftentimes, like we don't see how we're getting into a dynamic with the hope of what something might be, you know, and I feel like it's natural. And it's, it's become normalized to to try to have a savior complex or wanted to fix somebody.

Facts. Yeah, that's good. That's good stuff. Yeah, I think it's just such an insidious like thing too, because we don't realize we're doing it. Oftentimes, like we don't see how we're getting into a dynamic with the hope of what something might be, you know, and I feel like it's natural. And it's, it's become normalized to to try to have a savior complex or wanted to fix somebody.

It seems really noble, but it's also just reinforcing our own sense of inadequacy and feeling like we need to be the fixer.

It seems really noble, but it's also just reinforcing our own sense of inadequacy and feeling like we need to be the fixer.

It seems really noble, but it's also just reinforcing our own sense of inadequacy and feeling like we need to be the fixer.

Yeah. Do you think that the best thing that we can truly do if we want to inspire change is to be at ourself? Would you say that?

Yeah. Do you think that the best thing that we can truly do if we want to inspire change is to be at ourself? Would you say that?

Yeah. Do you think that the best thing that we can truly do if we want to inspire change is to be at ourself? Would you say that?

When meeting somebody in the courting phase, what are some red flags that you wouldn't presume or maybe expect or perceive are red flags in the moment?

When meeting somebody in the courting phase, what are some red flags that you wouldn't presume or maybe expect or perceive are red flags in the moment?