André Duqum

When meeting somebody in the courting phase, what are some red flags that you wouldn't presume or maybe expect or perceive are red flags in the moment?

Yeah. And it feels like the more you refine your capacity to listen, you can see where certain behaviors are actually coming from. And one that comes to mind is like being nice versus being kind.

Yeah. And it feels like the more you refine your capacity to listen, you can see where certain behaviors are actually coming from. And one that comes to mind is like being nice versus being kind.

Yeah. And it feels like the more you refine your capacity to listen, you can see where certain behaviors are actually coming from. And one that comes to mind is like being nice versus being kind.

Like being nice appears like it's a nice, it's a kind gesture, but in reality it can actually be quite manipulative.

Like being nice appears like it's a nice, it's a kind gesture, but in reality it can actually be quite manipulative.

Like being nice appears like it's a nice, it's a kind gesture, but in reality it can actually be quite manipulative.

Versus kindness is like genuine and from the heart.

Versus kindness is like genuine and from the heart.

Versus kindness is like genuine and from the heart.

And I'm just curious what you think about that because yeah, niceness can often be that behavioral compensation. Yeah. For various fears, you know?

And I'm just curious what you think about that because yeah, niceness can often be that behavioral compensation. Yeah. For various fears, you know?

And I'm just curious what you think about that because yeah, niceness can often be that behavioral compensation. Yeah. For various fears, you know?

I was driving with a friend a while back and... I think this is quite common with Canadians, actually. Canadians are very nice. Not to over-pathologize, and I think there is just a cultural component for sure. But he is a very genuinely kind spirit. But I saw his tendency to always filter his truth and authenticity with just the cover of niceness.

I was driving with a friend a while back and... I think this is quite common with Canadians, actually. Canadians are very nice. Not to over-pathologize, and I think there is just a cultural component for sure. But he is a very genuinely kind spirit. But I saw his tendency to always filter his truth and authenticity with just the cover of niceness.

I was driving with a friend a while back and... I think this is quite common with Canadians, actually. Canadians are very nice. Not to over-pathologize, and I think there is just a cultural component for sure. But he is a very genuinely kind spirit. But I saw his tendency to always filter his truth and authenticity with just the cover of niceness.

Yeah. Yeah, I'm sure. And It's just, it's just, we crave authenticity and there is a barrier there between authenticity.

Yeah. Yeah, I'm sure. And It's just, it's just, we crave authenticity and there is a barrier there between authenticity.

Yeah. Yeah, I'm sure. And It's just, it's just, we crave authenticity and there is a barrier there between authenticity.

And I love even more so the individuals who are maybe a bit more crass and, you know, straight to the point, you know, than, yeah, than the ones that need to kind of coat things because it almost, it almost robs you of the respect that you deserve and dynamics and communication to be truthful. Yeah.