Andy Stumpf

And who am I to tell somebody how to live their life?

And especially a family member that doesn't want to accept you because of who you are.

And again, if you were driving around in an ice cream truck

with the music playing and free puppies painted on the side, trying to lure children into a van down by the river, we're going to have a different conversation.

If you're trying to be true to yourself and who you are and live your best life, I don't know what to say about those people other than I think you are probably better off not having to deal with them and the judgment that comes with that.

Now, I'll close with this.

And this ties into something that you said here.

Let me see if I can find it first.

Oh, okay.

Here we go.

This is by design because, oh, you said it worked.

There are three individuals who know because they're people you can trust.

This is by design because being gay is not my entire identity.

I think that's excellent.

I don't think anything should be anybody's entire identity, but I will say this.

I'm almost positive that the subject line in the email, the first thing that I saw said gay in the military.

And my advice to you would be this.

Flip that on its head.

You want to go into the military and you're gay, right?

And that sounds weird to say.