Angela Giarratana

I am the housewife and I take care of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.

I would say I'm a good one.

I often go above and beyond and make my husband happy.

He's from a different culture too, so I've learned how to cook his food and do many things his way.

My husband works a tech job and goes into the office once a week.

His job isn't very demanding, and most of the time he is at home and playing video games or watching YouTube or working on projects for his hobbies.

We are very well off based on just his income.

We made an agreement before getting married that this would be our dynamic, but that he would still help me.

He reassured me he wouldn't be the tyrant kind of husband.

He does help sometimes, which is nice, but I still ask for help here and there.

A couple of months ago, we made an agreement that he would help me with cleaning up after I made food, as I really hate that part.

Today, after I made lunch, I jokingly said, quote, good luck with cleanup because there was a lot of pots.

However, he started getting upset and told me that this is my job and not his.

He said he worked so hard his whole life, which is why he has the job that he currently has and how it's not his fault that I have a job as a housewife.

This was hurtful because he doesn't really respect women who work and doesn't take them seriously either.

It's like no matter what I do, I can never earn his respect.

I feel like a weird toxic boss slash employee relationship.

He told me it's up to him when he will help me.

He will decide, not me.

He told me to shut up and do my job.