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Anna Runkle

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
644 total appearances

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Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

A scarcity, I guess. I don't know. It works psychologically. In my case, I was playing a game. Here's when everything turned around with my husband. It happened one day. He called me up and I had been coached to date like a proper lady and don't accept dates after Wednesday. And I was like, you're kidding. Oh, I can't. Who will I ever date? And I always hear that from people now.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

They're like, no one will ever date me if I have standards, you know? But I was like, so he calls me on Saturday evening. What was I really doing? I was just sitting there all by myself. My kids were at their dad's. I was really sad. I felt like crying. Another year, nobody to be with, you know? And I was really sad and wishing he would call. And then he called. It was him.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

They're like, no one will ever date me if I have standards, you know? But I was like, so he calls me on Saturday evening. What was I really doing? I was just sitting there all by myself. My kids were at their dad's. I was really sad. I felt like crying. Another year, nobody to be with, you know? And I was really sad and wishing he would call. And then he called. It was him.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

They're like, no one will ever date me if I have standards, you know? But I was like, so he calls me on Saturday evening. What was I really doing? I was just sitting there all by myself. My kids were at their dad's. I was really sad. I felt like crying. Another year, nobody to be with, you know? And I was really sad and wishing he would call. And then he called. It was him.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

And he's like, hey, do you want to hang out? I was wondering if you want to hang out. And I was like... No, sorry, I got plans. And he was like, oh, he was really surprised. And I told him later, you know, I didn't have to do that for long. I didn't do it to mess with him. I did it to overcome my own problem with latching on and bonding too fast as a result of being totally neglected as a kid.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

And he's like, hey, do you want to hang out? I was wondering if you want to hang out. And I was like... No, sorry, I got plans. And he was like, oh, he was really surprised. And I told him later, you know, I didn't have to do that for long. I didn't do it to mess with him. I did it to overcome my own problem with latching on and bonding too fast as a result of being totally neglected as a kid.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

And he's like, hey, do you want to hang out? I was wondering if you want to hang out. And I was like... No, sorry, I got plans. And he was like, oh, he was really surprised. And I told him later, you know, I didn't have to do that for long. I didn't do it to mess with him. I did it to overcome my own problem with latching on and bonding too fast as a result of being totally neglected as a kid.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

I had to just like act like a normal person so that the relationship could begin. Later, when I got to know him, I told him, I said, well, I did this thing. He had no idea. And he was like, that's so weird. Because when you did that, I was just like, it really like made me fall back into you. And he had, you know, he had broken up with me at that point before.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

I had to just like act like a normal person so that the relationship could begin. Later, when I got to know him, I told him, I said, well, I did this thing. He had no idea. And he was like, that's so weird. Because when you did that, I was just like, it really like made me fall back into you. And he had, you know, he had broken up with me at that point before.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

I had to just like act like a normal person so that the relationship could begin. Later, when I got to know him, I told him, I said, well, I did this thing. He had no idea. And he was like, that's so weird. Because when you did that, I was just like, it really like made me fall back into you. And he had, you know, he had broken up with me at that point before.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

And then he was gradually coming back. It really worked. But I had to act like a person who valued herself even though I wasn't really totally there yet. And that's how it works. Everybody imagines, oh, I'm going to heal. I'm going to get to the island of healed people. And then I'm going to have this great relationship. But it doesn't work like that. We heal by having relationships.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

And then he was gradually coming back. It really worked. But I had to act like a person who valued herself even though I wasn't really totally there yet. And that's how it works. Everybody imagines, oh, I'm going to heal. I'm going to get to the island of healed people. And then I'm going to have this great relationship. But it doesn't work like that. We heal by having relationships.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

And then he was gradually coming back. It really worked. But I had to act like a person who valued herself even though I wasn't really totally there yet. And that's how it works. Everybody imagines, oh, I'm going to heal. I'm going to get to the island of healed people. And then I'm going to have this great relationship. But it doesn't work like that. We heal by having relationships.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

But we try not to have too much crazy ones that grind you down and ruin your life.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

But we try not to have too much crazy ones that grind you down and ruin your life.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

But we try not to have too much crazy ones that grind you down and ruin your life.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

Yeah, yeah, serial limerence. And it's a sad fate if they can't stop it. And I had that happen. This guy who stalked me, one day, 15 years later, I used to have a video production company, and I had to hire some people to fill a big crew. And I hired this woman out of 100 people on Craigslist, and we were cleaning up afterwards. And the video we made was about stalkers for some client.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

Yeah, yeah, serial limerence. And it's a sad fate if they can't stop it. And I had that happen. This guy who stalked me, one day, 15 years later, I used to have a video production company, and I had to hire some people to fill a big crew. And I hired this woman out of 100 people on Craigslist, and we were cleaning up afterwards. And the video we made was about stalkers for some client.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

Yeah, yeah, serial limerence. And it's a sad fate if they can't stop it. And I had that happen. This guy who stalked me, one day, 15 years later, I used to have a video production company, and I had to hire some people to fill a big crew. And I hired this woman out of 100 people on Craigslist, and we were cleaning up afterwards. And the video we made was about stalkers for some client.

Modern Wisdom
#935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?

And I said, I had a stalker once. And she goes, oh, that's so weird. Me too. Anyway, it turned out it was the same guy.