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Yes, all Kentucky natives.

Yes, all Kentucky natives.

Yes, all Kentucky natives.

From the New York Times, I'm Anna Martin.

From the New York Times, I'm Anna Martin.

My name is Nick.

My name is Nick.

We've been asking you about the moments you knew you were falling in love. And we heard from so many of you about moments that led to a lifetime of commitment. Relationships that ended almost as soon as they started. Moments where your love was not returned. Stories from decades ago and others from very, very recently. Some of those moments were small and subtle, others straight out of a movie.

We've been asking you about the moments you knew you were falling in love. And we heard from so many of you about moments that led to a lifetime of commitment. Relationships that ended almost as soon as they started. Moments where your love was not returned. Stories from decades ago and others from very, very recently. Some of those moments were small and subtle, others straight out of a movie.

They were all a huge pleasure to listen to.

They were all a huge pleasure to listen to.

My head was on his chest and I could hear his heart beating. And I suddenly knew very, very surely that I needed to hear his heartbeat my whole life.

My head was on his chest and I could hear his heart beating. And I suddenly knew very, very surely that I needed to hear his heartbeat my whole life.

Honestly, we got so many messages from you that we can't possibly play them all here. But we did listen to every single one. And they just, they felt like fantasies. I felt like I was there with you, under the stars, at dinner, watching the sunset. Listener, let me tell you, romance is not dead.

Honestly, we got so many messages from you that we can't possibly play them all here. But we did listen to every single one. And they just, they felt like fantasies. I felt like I was there with you, under the stars, at dinner, watching the sunset. Listener, let me tell you, romance is not dead.

I could listen to these all day. I mean it. And we're going to play some more of your messages later in today's episode at the end. But before we get to those, your messages, your stories, they got the whole Modern Love team thinking. What does it actually mean to fall in love? This feeling so many of you described, the puzzle pieces, the warmth and comfort and feeling at home.

I could listen to these all day. I mean it. And we're going to play some more of your messages later in today's episode at the end. But before we get to those, your messages, your stories, they got the whole Modern Love team thinking. What does it actually mean to fall in love? This feeling so many of you described, the puzzle pieces, the warmth and comfort and feeling at home.

How do we get there? What makes us love each other? Today, we're going to spend some time on that exact question. Ten years ago, Modern Love published possibly the most iconic story of falling in love in the history of the column. It was in an essay called To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This by Mandy Lynn Catron.

How do we get there? What makes us love each other? Today, we're going to spend some time on that exact question. Ten years ago, Modern Love published possibly the most iconic story of falling in love in the history of the column. It was in an essay called To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This by Mandy Lynn Catron.

In it, Mandy describes a list of 36 questions developed by a psychologist that are meant to help spark and deepen intimacy. What happened to Mandy after she used it reveals a lot about how we fall in love. So today, we're going to talk to Modern Love editor Daniel Jones about how people fall in love and the power of those 36 questions.