Annie Duke

How much did that meal affect your happiness over the course of this last year?

None.

Now, what if I see you a month later and I say, hey, it's been a month since we had that lunch.

Like, how much did that lunch affect your happiness over the last month?

No, not much.

And even if I see you a week later, you've had 21 meals since then.

In other words, it's just it's a decision that makes no difference.

right?

Like we feel it really keenly in the moment, but it's actually very low impact.

So what we want to think about when we're deciding like when should we take our time versus when should we go fast is not this fear of getting a bad outcome and feeling like you made a mistake.

It's

Is it something that's going to matter?

Because if it's not going to matter, it doesn't really matter if I got a bad meal.

So we should be thinking about impact.

So that sort of piece number one is that most of the decisions that we make are actually pretty low impact.

they're not really going to have high effect on our overall happiness over the course of our lives.

They're pretty low impact.

So just go fast on those things.

On the things that are high impact, the thing that I like to think about, are you dating or are you marrying?

If you have a bad date, it's not a big deal.