Anonymous Male Guest

Yes, I'm on Hinge and Bumble and Coffee Meets Bagel.

So I'm interested in a profile, and I'll review it, and I'll swipe, and then there's a match. And what I've realized is that it's very easy to actually ghost. I remember I was... chatting with someone, I really liked her profile, and I was trying to kind of flirt digitally, try to build a little bit of banter.

So I'm interested in a profile, and I'll review it, and I'll swipe, and then there's a match. And what I've realized is that it's very easy to actually ghost. I remember I was... chatting with someone, I really liked her profile, and I was trying to kind of flirt digitally, try to build a little bit of banter.

So I'm interested in a profile, and I'll review it, and I'll swipe, and then there's a match. And what I've realized is that it's very easy to actually ghost. I remember I was... chatting with someone, I really liked her profile, and I was trying to kind of flirt digitally, try to build a little bit of banter.

And so we had set a video date, and I had been very explicit about ensuring she was comfortable with it. And then I actually extended a Google Calendar invite, and she marked yes, she confirmed on the invite. So I was going in with a lot of confidence that this is going to happen. And then when I joined, she didn't show up. And so I had...

And so we had set a video date, and I had been very explicit about ensuring she was comfortable with it. And then I actually extended a Google Calendar invite, and she marked yes, she confirmed on the invite. So I was going in with a lot of confidence that this is going to happen. And then when I joined, she didn't show up. And so I had...

And so we had set a video date, and I had been very explicit about ensuring she was comfortable with it. And then I actually extended a Google Calendar invite, and she marked yes, she confirmed on the invite. So I was going in with a lot of confidence that this is going to happen. And then when I joined, she didn't show up. And so I had...

texted her saying, hey, look, just want to check if, you know, I'm in this lobby. And she said, I'll be there in a few minutes. And she didn't show up. And I waited, you know, basically about an hour. And then I realized that she was ghosting me.

texted her saying, hey, look, just want to check if, you know, I'm in this lobby. And she said, I'll be there in a few minutes. And she didn't show up. And I waited, you know, basically about an hour. And then I realized that she was ghosting me.

texted her saying, hey, look, just want to check if, you know, I'm in this lobby. And she said, I'll be there in a few minutes. And she didn't show up. And I waited, you know, basically about an hour. And then I realized that she was ghosting me.

I appreciate that. I think that's maybe kind of just a function of the way that dating is, that some of these dating mediums, when they're off screen, is that it's very easy to kind of escape accountability.

I appreciate that. I think that's maybe kind of just a function of the way that dating is, that some of these dating mediums, when they're off screen, is that it's very easy to kind of escape accountability.

I appreciate that. I think that's maybe kind of just a function of the way that dating is, that some of these dating mediums, when they're off screen, is that it's very easy to kind of escape accountability.

Yeah, and also like if there is a concern, if you don't share it, I can't address it. Like either you show it or you tell me about it so that I can engage in that. But without being willing to open up, without being willing to give that chance or have that faith, it's very difficult to actually demonstrate that.

Yeah, and also like if there is a concern, if you don't share it, I can't address it. Like either you show it or you tell me about it so that I can engage in that. But without being willing to open up, without being willing to give that chance or have that faith, it's very difficult to actually demonstrate that.

Yeah, and also like if there is a concern, if you don't share it, I can't address it. Like either you show it or you tell me about it so that I can engage in that. But without being willing to open up, without being willing to give that chance or have that faith, it's very difficult to actually demonstrate that.

I do not, no.

I do not, no.

I do not, no.

Quite candidly, I've kind of bought into, I think, a lot of the kind of contemporary rhetoric that it's not worth trying to make someone uncomfortable in a public space. Now, I recognize it's a public space, but... I do think there is a little bit of discomfort as the fear of being kind of typecast is like, okay, that's a creepy or uncomfortable or weird approach or weird person.