Ari Wallach

It's a mouthful. So we know empathy. You've had guests on that. Transgenerational empathy first and foremost starts with empathy and compassion for yourself. Then we move into empathy for those who came before, which then allows us to build empathy for the future, future, future Ari, future, future Andy, but then future generations. And we can get into how to do that.

It's a mouthful. So we know empathy. You've had guests on that. Transgenerational empathy first and foremost starts with empathy and compassion for yourself. Then we move into empathy for those who came before, which then allows us to build empathy for the future, future, future Ari, future, future Andy, but then future generations. And we can get into how to do that.

So empathy for yourself is – in many ways, it's almost self-compassion. It's recognizing you're doing the best you can with what you have. Part of the issue is we surround ourselves – and I'm guilty of this – of images and quotes and books of how to live your best life, how to be amazing, and anything –

So empathy for yourself is – in many ways, it's almost self-compassion. It's recognizing you're doing the best you can with what you have. Part of the issue is we surround ourselves – and I'm guilty of this – of images and quotes and books of how to live your best life, how to be amazing, and anything –

So empathy for yourself is – in many ways, it's almost self-compassion. It's recognizing you're doing the best you can with what you have. Part of the issue is we surround ourselves – and I'm guilty of this – of images and quotes and books of how to live your best life, how to be amazing, and anything –

below that metric of perfection, you start to feel terrible and you start to kind of ruminate over what, what you, you know, you lie in bed at night and you think, how could I have done that? How could I have done that? And you forget that you, you're only able to handle what you can at that time. And you can't hold yourself up to this idealized yardstick.

below that metric of perfection, you start to feel terrible and you start to kind of ruminate over what, what you, you know, you lie in bed at night and you think, how could I have done that? How could I have done that? And you forget that you, you're only able to handle what you can at that time. And you can't hold yourself up to this idealized yardstick.

below that metric of perfection, you start to feel terrible and you start to kind of ruminate over what, what you, you know, you lie in bed at night and you think, how could I have done that? How could I have done that? And you forget that you, you're only able to handle what you can at that time. And you can't hold yourself up to this idealized yardstick.

Look, I dealt with this for, for a long time. We learned my father had stage four cancer. I was 18 years old. Um, And from when we learned to when he passed away was only four months. Four months. Four months. And for a lot of that time, I was kind of in denial, right? Like I wasn't actually there with him as much as I should have been. In fact, we won't go into this.

Look, I dealt with this for, for a long time. We learned my father had stage four cancer. I was 18 years old. Um, And from when we learned to when he passed away was only four months. Four months. Four months. And for a lot of that time, I was kind of in denial, right? Like I wasn't actually there with him as much as I should have been. In fact, we won't go into this.

Look, I dealt with this for, for a long time. We learned my father had stage four cancer. I was 18 years old. Um, And from when we learned to when he passed away was only four months. Four months. Four months. And for a lot of that time, I was kind of in denial, right? Like I wasn't actually there with him as much as I should have been. In fact, we won't go into this.

I was actually with you that summer. We were working together that summer at a summer camp. Now, for years, I beat myself up. How could I have done that? I should have been home with him. It was only going to be four months. And then I realized, and this is the stealth compassion, like 18-year-old Ari was only at a place emotionally and psychologically to be able to do what I did.

I was actually with you that summer. We were working together that summer at a summer camp. Now, for years, I beat myself up. How could I have done that? I should have been home with him. It was only going to be four months. And then I realized, and this is the stealth compassion, like 18-year-old Ari was only at a place emotionally and psychologically to be able to do what I did.

I was actually with you that summer. We were working together that summer at a summer camp. Now, for years, I beat myself up. How could I have done that? I should have been home with him. It was only going to be four months. And then I realized, and this is the stealth compassion, like 18-year-old Ari was only at a place emotionally and psychologically to be able to do what I did.

And it wasn't the older 30- or 40-year-old Ari of now being like – of having these regrets. So empathy for yourself really, really centers – it doesn't mean you let yourself off the hook. It doesn't mean you can go willy-nilly and treat people terribly. It means you recognize that who you were even yesterday is in many ways different than who you are today and what you've learned.

And it wasn't the older 30- or 40-year-old Ari of now being like – of having these regrets. So empathy for yourself really, really centers – it doesn't mean you let yourself off the hook. It doesn't mean you can go willy-nilly and treat people terribly. It means you recognize that who you were even yesterday is in many ways different than who you are today and what you've learned.

And it wasn't the older 30- or 40-year-old Ari of now being like – of having these regrets. So empathy for yourself really, really centers – it doesn't mean you let yourself off the hook. It doesn't mean you can go willy-nilly and treat people terribly. It means you recognize that who you were even yesterday is in many ways different than who you are today and what you've learned.

So transgenerational empathy has to start with yourself. It has to start with being able to look in the mirror and say, I'm not perfect. I was born into this world, into a family, into my birth family or family that you choose, and they were born into something.

So transgenerational empathy has to start with yourself. It has to start with being able to look in the mirror and say, I'm not perfect. I was born into this world, into a family, into my birth family or family that you choose, and they were born into something.

So transgenerational empathy has to start with yourself. It has to start with being able to look in the mirror and say, I'm not perfect. I was born into this world, into a family, into my birth family or family that you choose, and they were born into something.