Arthur Aron

So I said, let's take a bicycle taxi and go out to lunch. Well, those are sort of scary in the heavy traffic. So they took the bicycle taxi. They arrived at the place they were going to have lunch, and they got off, and she said, oh, that taxi driver is so attractive.

So I said, let's take a bicycle taxi and go out to lunch. Well, those are sort of scary in the heavy traffic. So they took the bicycle taxi. They arrived at the place they were going to have lunch, and they got off, and she said, oh, that taxi driver is so attractive.

So I said, let's take a bicycle taxi and go out to lunch. Well, those are sort of scary in the heavy traffic. So they took the bicycle taxi. They arrived at the place they were going to have lunch, and they got off, and she said, oh, that taxi driver is so attractive.

Yes, right.

Yes, right.

Yes, right.

Yeah, I mean, it's only one of the causes of falling in love. I mean, there's other circumstances that can strongly create it, and we've done research on that.

Yeah, I mean, it's only one of the causes of falling in love. I mean, there's other circumstances that can strongly create it, and we've done research on that.

Yeah, I mean, it's only one of the causes of falling in love. I mean, there's other circumstances that can strongly create it, and we've done research on that.

Well, that's certainly what happens in a new relationship. But in an ongoing relationship, when you do it together, it's not so much that it's about my feelings about them. It's what we are.

Well, that's certainly what happens in a new relationship. But in an ongoing relationship, when you do it together, it's not so much that it's about my feelings about them. It's what we are.

Well, that's certainly what happens in a new relationship. But in an ongoing relationship, when you do it together, it's not so much that it's about my feelings about them. It's what we are.

Well, I think boredom has a big effect. If everything's going fine, fine, you know, we'll just stay together and enjoy raising our children or enjoy having our house together, you know, supporting each other. But we've shown that over time, if you're bored, you're less likely to, you know, to feel love or feel even closeness, as much closeness to your partner.

Well, I think boredom has a big effect. If everything's going fine, fine, you know, we'll just stay together and enjoy raising our children or enjoy having our house together, you know, supporting each other. But we've shown that over time, if you're bored, you're less likely to, you know, to feel love or feel even closeness, as much closeness to your partner.

Well, I think boredom has a big effect. If everything's going fine, fine, you know, we'll just stay together and enjoy raising our children or enjoy having our house together, you know, supporting each other. But we've shown that over time, if you're bored, you're less likely to, you know, to feel love or feel even closeness, as much closeness to your partner.

Well, they weren't interviewed in person. They did a questionnaire early on where they answered a bunch of different questions, three or four of which had to do with boredom. And then we gave them a questionnaire, I don't know, five years later, eight years later or something. that focused on closeness using our standard measure of closeness.

Well, they weren't interviewed in person. They did a questionnaire early on where they answered a bunch of different questions, three or four of which had to do with boredom. And then we gave them a questionnaire, I don't know, five years later, eight years later or something. that focused on closeness using our standard measure of closeness.

Well, they weren't interviewed in person. They did a questionnaire early on where they answered a bunch of different questions, three or four of which had to do with boredom. And then we gave them a questionnaire, I don't know, five years later, eight years later or something. that focused on closeness using our standard measure of closeness.

And those who had been more bored eight years earlier were likely to now to have less satisfaction.

And those who had been more bored eight years earlier were likely to now to have less satisfaction.