Arthur Brooks

Now, it makes you do the insane things. Like I just sent a hundred text messages to that person and I humiliated myself in the last hour because I was so freaked out about the fact that she didn't answer me. that he didn't say anything to me or that he didn't sound right in that last call. He didn't sound right in that last call.

Now, it makes you do the insane things. Like I just sent a hundred text messages to that person and I humiliated myself in the last hour because I was so freaked out about the fact that she didn't answer me. that he didn't say anything to me or that he didn't sound right in that last call. He didn't sound right in that last call.

Now, it makes you do the insane things. Like I just sent a hundred text messages to that person and I humiliated myself in the last hour because I was so freaked out about the fact that she didn't answer me. that he didn't say anything to me or that he didn't sound right in that last call. He didn't sound right in that last call.

It didn't look right, whatever it is, because we have a million ways to ascertain what's going on. And the reason that ordinarily you'd be like, I don't know, whatever, I'll figure it out, which you would in ordinary life.

It didn't look right, whatever it is, because we have a million ways to ascertain what's going on. And the reason that ordinarily you'd be like, I don't know, whatever, I'll figure it out, which you would in ordinary life.

It didn't look right, whatever it is, because we have a million ways to ascertain what's going on. And the reason that ordinarily you'd be like, I don't know, whatever, I'll figure it out, which you would in ordinary life.

You can't do that because you're ruminating so much because your ventral lateral prefrontal cortex is turned on so high because your serotonin levels have fallen because you're bonding to the, you're imprinting on the other person. That's what's going on. You're writing a symphony in your brain about the other person. And your brain looks like you're clinically depressed in step three.

You can't do that because you're ruminating so much because your ventral lateral prefrontal cortex is turned on so high because your serotonin levels have fallen because you're bonding to the, you're imprinting on the other person. That's what's going on. You're writing a symphony in your brain about the other person. And your brain looks like you're clinically depressed in step three.

You can't do that because you're ruminating so much because your ventral lateral prefrontal cortex is turned on so high because your serotonin levels have fallen because you're bonding to the, you're imprinting on the other person. That's what's going on. You're writing a symphony in your brain about the other person. And your brain looks like you're clinically depressed in step three.

That's the reason that people are like, it's so wonderful. It's so terrible. That's why. It hurts. It's misery. And if you stayed there for the rest of your life, you'd want to die. You would literally want to die.

That's the reason that people are like, it's so wonderful. It's so terrible. That's why. It hurts. It's misery. And if you stayed there for the rest of your life, you'd want to die. You would literally want to die.

That's the reason that people are like, it's so wonderful. It's so terrible. That's why. It hurts. It's misery. And if you stayed there for the rest of your life, you'd want to die. You would literally want to die.

What you're trying to get to is the step four, where you have other hormones and neuropeptides, for example, oxytocin, which is a bonding hormone that says, this is a member of my tribe. This is my kin.

What you're trying to get to is the step four, where you have other hormones and neuropeptides, for example, oxytocin, which is a bonding hormone that says, this is a member of my tribe. This is my kin.

What you're trying to get to is the step four, where you have other hormones and neuropeptides, for example, oxytocin, which is a bonding hormone that says, this is a member of my tribe. This is my kin.

Yeah, well, that's when... What will happen is you start to recognize somebody as your partner. After a while, you have to go through these steps. But step four is the bonding that actually is involved in the production of oxytocin. So that's what you're trying to get to. That's what you want to get to. One, two, three, four. It's wonderful. It's terrible. It's frightening. It's exciting.

Yeah, well, that's when... What will happen is you start to recognize somebody as your partner. After a while, you have to go through these steps. But step four is the bonding that actually is involved in the production of oxytocin. So that's what you're trying to get to. That's what you want to get to. One, two, three, four. It's wonderful. It's terrible. It's frightening. It's exciting.

Yeah, well, that's when... What will happen is you start to recognize somebody as your partner. After a while, you have to go through these steps. But step four is the bonding that actually is involved in the production of oxytocin. So that's what you're trying to get to. That's what you want to get to. One, two, three, four. It's wonderful. It's terrible. It's frightening. It's exciting.

That's the whole thing. But again, remember, you and I know Because this is our world. Psychology is biology. It just is. And you're doing all this stuff. You're not an idiot. You know, you're falling in love is the way that this works. If you understand this, you can manage it better.

That's the whole thing. But again, remember, you and I know Because this is our world. Psychology is biology. It just is. And you're doing all this stuff. You're not an idiot. You know, you're falling in love is the way that this works. If you understand this, you can manage it better.