Arthur Brooks

And so a lot of what I'm doing is I'm saying, if you've got this thing, you need to manage yourself because you need to understand yourself. Gotcha. And you need to understand the people who are going to prey on you. Yeah. Because they will. You'll be a magnet for dark triads. And it'll be like, every boyfriend I have is a psychopath. But it's literally true. Yeah.

And so a lot of what I'm doing is I'm saying, if you've got this thing, you need to manage yourself because you need to understand yourself. Gotcha. And you need to understand the people who are going to prey on you. Yeah. Because they will. You'll be a magnet for dark triads. And it'll be like, every boyfriend I have is a psychopath. But it's literally true. Yeah.

Not because you have bad luck, but because you're blinking light that says, psychopaths welcome.

Not because you have bad luck, but because you're blinking light that says, psychopaths welcome.

Not because you have bad luck, but because you're blinking light that says, psychopaths welcome.

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For sure. I mean, that's why emotional self-management is so critically important. That starts with knowledge. That's why I do the science. I don't do the science because it's whiz-bang, super cool. It is. I do it because it's in the public interest. And we get a better world when people fall in love and stay in love. That's it. But we have to call it that...

For sure. I mean, that's why emotional self-management is so critically important. That starts with knowledge. That's why I do the science. I don't do the science because it's whiz-bang, super cool. It is. I do it because it's in the public interest. And we get a better world when people fall in love and stay in love. That's it. But we have to call it that...

For sure. I mean, that's why emotional self-management is so critically important. That starts with knowledge. That's why I do the science. I don't do the science because it's whiz-bang, super cool. It is. I do it because it's in the public interest. And we get a better world when people fall in love and stay in love. That's it. But we have to call it that...

That's right. The thing that you're talking about that's really important that I talk about with a lot of my students, a lot of people, because I'm on the road all the time talking about these things with young people and not so young people, because everybody wants love. People my age can fall in love just like a kid, because the brain is the brain.

That's right. The thing that you're talking about that's really important that I talk about with a lot of my students, a lot of people, because I'm on the road all the time talking about these things with young people and not so young people, because everybody wants love. People my age can fall in love just like a kid, because the brain is the brain.

That's right. The thing that you're talking about that's really important that I talk about with a lot of my students, a lot of people, because I'm on the road all the time talking about these things with young people and not so young people, because everybody wants love. People my age can fall in love just like a kid, because the brain is the brain.

The thing that I talk about is what's the realistic expectation as you've gone through this neurochemical cascade and you want a relationship to endure as opposed to simply be established. You establish a relationship. What do you want it to be? What's the goal? And the answer is generally between two and five years after the initiation of the relationship, you don't want passionate love.

The thing that I talk about is what's the realistic expectation as you've gone through this neurochemical cascade and you want a relationship to endure as opposed to simply be established. You establish a relationship. What do you want it to be? What's the goal? And the answer is generally between two and five years after the initiation of the relationship, you don't want passionate love.

The thing that I talk about is what's the realistic expectation as you've gone through this neurochemical cascade and you want a relationship to endure as opposed to simply be established. You establish a relationship. What do you want it to be? What's the goal? And the answer is generally between two and five years after the initiation of the relationship, you don't want passionate love.

You want companionate love, which sounds, my kids have heard me say this. They're like, dad, that's not hot.

You want companionate love, which sounds, my kids have heard me say this. They're like, dad, that's not hot.

You want companionate love, which sounds, my kids have heard me say this. They're like, dad, that's not hot.