Arthur Brooks

It's the isolation, the intense isolation that so many people are under.

And it's that much worse during coronavirus and that much worse now that everybody's virtual in their work.

And so the key thing to keep in mind is that happiness is love.

I've got data over an 85-year period from men and women who were born in the, who are actually in college in the late 1930s and in the 40s.

So they're super old.

you know, the sample it's called the Harvard study of adult development.

I don't run it, but a very close friend of mine does.

And one of the things that he has found tracking people over who started with a sample of people who went to Harvard, which is not exactly diverse, but then he expanded to people who didn't go to college and their spouses and their kids.

So it's all races, both genders, poor, rich, educated, uneducated.

And what he finds is that there's a lot of things that people do who wind up happy.

They tend to lifelong education.

They tend to

know how to not ruminate and keep their worry under control.

They tend to take care of their health in a not crazy way.

They tend to walk a lot, for example.

They don't become obese.

They're very careful about smoking and drinking.

They drink moderately or not at all, but very moderately at most.

But here's the key thing.

They have relationships.