Arthur Brooks

There's an app for that. There's not an app for the most complex thing in life, which is falling in love. You know, it's funny because you know exactly what it is, but you can't simulate it. You can't, you can't predict it. You can't solve for it. And even though I've been married almost 34 years, I don't know what's going to happen today. My wife will get really mad at me probably today.

My wife is Spanish. And so, you know, they're very quarrelsome people. Yeah. It's a diplomatic way to put it, yeah. And she would say that we're a defensive group. Fuego. Yeah, that's right. So we're defensive. We're Americans and Brits. So the result of it is that we're going to have a conflict today, but I can't predict what it's going to be. I don't know what it's going to be, you know?

My wife is Spanish. And so, you know, they're very quarrelsome people. Yeah. It's a diplomatic way to put it, yeah. And she would say that we're a defensive group. Fuego. Yeah, that's right. So we're defensive. We're Americans and Brits. So the result of it is that we're going to have a conflict today, but I can't predict what it's going to be. I don't know what it's going to be, you know?

My wife is Spanish. And so, you know, they're very quarrelsome people. Yeah. It's a diplomatic way to put it, yeah. And she would say that we're a defensive group. Fuego. Yeah, that's right. So we're defensive. We're Americans and Brits. So the result of it is that we're going to have a conflict today, but I can't predict what it's going to be. I don't know what it's going to be, you know?

And I've been married for almost 34 years. I'm in love. I have a great marriage. But I still can't solve my marriage. I can't solve for it. I can only live it. So this is the thing. Everybody wants to solve problems that are complicated and they need to live the problems that are most important to us in life, which are complex. Complex problems can't be solved. They can only be experienced.

And I've been married for almost 34 years. I'm in love. I have a great marriage. But I still can't solve my marriage. I can't solve for it. I can only live it. So this is the thing. Everybody wants to solve problems that are complicated and they need to live the problems that are most important to us in life, which are complex. Complex problems can't be solved. They can only be experienced.

And I've been married for almost 34 years. I'm in love. I have a great marriage. But I still can't solve my marriage. I can't solve for it. I can only live it. So this is the thing. Everybody wants to solve problems that are complicated and they need to live the problems that are most important to us in life, which are complex. Complex problems can't be solved. They can only be experienced.

A football game is a complex problem. That's why you watch the game. You don't just simulate it on a computer because that would be impossible. Your marriage is a football game, right? And that's kind of, and so that's the spirit in which you go into it, which is I'm going to, I got to go live this thing.

A football game is a complex problem. That's why you watch the game. You don't just simulate it on a computer because that would be impossible. Your marriage is a football game, right? And that's kind of, and so that's the spirit in which you go into it, which is I'm going to, I got to go live this thing.

A football game is a complex problem. That's why you watch the game. You don't just simulate it on a computer because that would be impossible. Your marriage is a football game, right? And that's kind of, and so that's the spirit in which you go into it, which is I'm going to, I got to go live this thing.

I got to go make a mistake and get my heart stomped on and live and learn and live the thing again and live the thing again. And so when I'm talking about it, I talk about, number one, the brain science behind what it means to fall in love and experience that, and then the ways that we get it wrong, the ways that we chronically get it wrong.

I got to go make a mistake and get my heart stomped on and live and learn and live the thing again and live the thing again. And so when I'm talking about it, I talk about, number one, the brain science behind what it means to fall in love and experience that, and then the ways that we get it wrong, the ways that we chronically get it wrong.

I got to go make a mistake and get my heart stomped on and live and learn and live the thing again and live the thing again. And so when I'm talking about it, I talk about, number one, the brain science behind what it means to fall in love and experience that, and then the ways that we get it wrong, the ways that we chronically get it wrong.

And of course, that's the unit of the class my students are most interested in.

And of course, that's the unit of the class my students are most interested in.

And of course, that's the unit of the class my students are most interested in.

So falling in love is a five-step process in your brain.

So falling in love is a five-step process in your brain.

So falling in love is a five-step process in your brain.

four steps depending on how you count it number one is the is the ignition of falling in love ignition is attraction and falling in love this is one of the reasons that you know even people who aren't shallow want to look good because you actually if you're going to start the falling in love process you actually have to have sex hormones involved estrogen estradiol testosterone