Arthur Brooks

And when you fall in love with somebody and you get through the agonizing stages of 1, 2, and 3, which, by the way, you're still going to have those things. I mean, my wife's really, really mad at me. I'm like... I'm pretty bummed out. And I've got some of those early stages still going on. And of course, there's still, you know, it's tons of attraction, the whole thing year after year.

And when you fall in love with somebody and you get through the agonizing stages of 1, 2, and 3, which, by the way, you're still going to have those things. I mean, my wife's really, really mad at me. I'm like... I'm pretty bummed out. And I've got some of those early stages still going on. And of course, there's still, you know, it's tons of attraction, the whole thing year after year.

And when you fall in love with somebody and you get through the agonizing stages of 1, 2, and 3, which, by the way, you're still going to have those things. I mean, my wife's really, really mad at me. I'm like... I'm pretty bummed out. And I've got some of those early stages still going on. And of course, there's still, you know, it's tons of attraction, the whole thing year after year.

Surveillance behavior is still a little vigilant here and there. I'm trying to be vigilant. I'm not, you know, that much surveillance behavior at this point. I don't think I could face that. But yeah, she's looking at me. I'm fine, my friends. Where is he? Which isn't surveillance behavior. She's just curious about where I am because I'm traveling all the time. I'm on the road every week.

Surveillance behavior is still a little vigilant here and there. I'm trying to be vigilant. I'm not, you know, that much surveillance behavior at this point. I don't think I could face that. But yeah, she's looking at me. I'm fine, my friends. Where is he? Which isn't surveillance behavior. She's just curious about where I am because I'm traveling all the time. I'm on the road every week.

Surveillance behavior is still a little vigilant here and there. I'm trying to be vigilant. I'm not, you know, that much surveillance behavior at this point. I don't think I could face that. But yeah, she's looking at me. I'm fine, my friends. Where is he? Which isn't surveillance behavior. She's just curious about where I am because I'm traveling all the time. I'm on the road every week.

So traveling should be about...

So traveling should be about...

So traveling should be about...

But the whole point is that you want to get to this bonding. You want to become kin together with this person in a particular relationship. And getting to that is really important. And staying there is the ultimate goal of a relationship. The early stages are passion. The bonding stage is what's often called companionate love, which sounds, as my kids rhyme, it sounds not hot.

But the whole point is that you want to get to this bonding. You want to become kin together with this person in a particular relationship. And getting to that is really important. And staying there is the ultimate goal of a relationship. The early stages are passion. The bonding stage is what's often called companionate love, which sounds, as my kids rhyme, it sounds not hot.

But the whole point is that you want to get to this bonding. You want to become kin together with this person in a particular relationship. And getting to that is really important. And staying there is the ultimate goal of a relationship. The early stages are passion. The bonding stage is what's often called companionate love, which sounds, as my kids rhyme, it sounds not hot.

right correct companion at love but companion have love has lots of passion in it but this is it's your you want to get if you if you're going to fall in love and stay in love your goal is best friendship you want to spend every night with your best friend that's the goal and you can't get through you can't get over the agony you got to go through the agony that's the reason the friend zone almost never leads to these relationships because you've skipped the early stages

right correct companion at love but companion have love has lots of passion in it but this is it's your you want to get if you if you're going to fall in love and stay in love your goal is best friendship you want to spend every night with your best friend that's the goal and you can't get through you can't get over the agony you got to go through the agony that's the reason the friend zone almost never leads to these relationships because you've skipped the early stages

right correct companion at love but companion have love has lots of passion in it but this is it's your you want to get if you if you're going to fall in love and stay in love your goal is best friendship you want to spend every night with your best friend that's the goal and you can't get through you can't get over the agony you got to go through the agony that's the reason the friend zone almost never leads to these relationships because you've skipped the early stages

Yeah. The friend zone is really... I mean, I've heard people. It's like, yeah, you know, we said to each other, look, if we're still not married in five years and, you know, we really... I mean, we get along so great, then we'll just go get married. And I've heard of that actually kind of working, but I don't believe it.

Yeah. The friend zone is really... I mean, I've heard people. It's like, yeah, you know, we said to each other, look, if we're still not married in five years and, you know, we really... I mean, we get along so great, then we'll just go get married. And I've heard of that actually kind of working, but I don't believe it.

Yeah. The friend zone is really... I mean, I've heard people. It's like, yeah, you know, we said to each other, look, if we're still not married in five years and, you know, we really... I mean, we get along so great, then we'll just go get married. And I've heard of that actually kind of working, but I don't believe it.

your partner should be your best friend or you should be best friends with your partner but marrying a best friend is not no strategy you got to go through one two and three you got to have a ton of attraction you have to have lots of anticipation euphoria you have to go through the bonding stage of rumination on the other person and then you have to arrive at best friendship through that particular process that's just leapfrogs right to the end yeah exactly right

your partner should be your best friend or you should be best friends with your partner but marrying a best friend is not no strategy you got to go through one two and three you got to have a ton of attraction you have to have lots of anticipation euphoria you have to go through the bonding stage of rumination on the other person and then you have to arrive at best friendship through that particular process that's just leapfrogs right to the end yeah exactly right