Arthur Brooks

Yeah. And respect the biology is what it comes down to. That means understand yourself. Understand how you're wired. Don't act on your impulses. That's respecting the biology and acting accordingly. That's managing your brain, managing your limbic system so it doesn't manage you is what it comes down to.

There's also a real understanding in that work about sort of the basics of what people need in opposite sex relationships, for example. I mean, it's not just David Buss's work. There's a lot of the evolutionary biology of attraction suggests that

There's also a real understanding in that work about sort of the basics of what people need in opposite sex relationships, for example. I mean, it's not just David Buss's work. There's a lot of the evolutionary biology of attraction suggests that

There's also a real understanding in that work about sort of the basics of what people need in opposite sex relationships, for example. I mean, it's not just David Buss's work. There's a lot of the evolutionary biology of attraction suggests that

fundamentally i mean you're not going to be reductive about this because there's a lot that goes into falling in love and staying in love and and having relationships but but fundamentally women require adoration it's and this is called often called the adoration admiration dichotomy adoration means baby you're everything i would literally take a bullet for you you're so wonderful you're so beautiful because and from evolutionary biology would suggest you need somebody who's going to take

fundamentally i mean you're not going to be reductive about this because there's a lot that goes into falling in love and staying in love and and having relationships but but fundamentally women require adoration it's and this is called often called the adoration admiration dichotomy adoration means baby you're everything i would literally take a bullet for you you're so wonderful you're so beautiful because and from evolutionary biology would suggest you need somebody who's going to take

fundamentally i mean you're not going to be reductive about this because there's a lot that goes into falling in love and staying in love and and having relationships but but fundamentally women require adoration it's and this is called often called the adoration admiration dichotomy adoration means baby you're everything i would literally take a bullet for you you're so wonderful you're so beautiful because and from evolutionary biology would suggest you need somebody who's going to take

I mean, who's going to be protective, completely protective, way beyond what reason would suggest. You're insane for that particular person, whereas men need admiration, which is basically, you know, that is the largest gazelle I've ever seen that you just dragged into the cave, man. I mean, that's going to feed our family for three. You're so big and strong, right?

I mean, who's going to be protective, completely protective, way beyond what reason would suggest. You're insane for that particular person, whereas men need admiration, which is basically, you know, that is the largest gazelle I've ever seen that you just dragged into the cave, man. I mean, that's going to feed our family for three. You're so big and strong, right?

I mean, who's going to be protective, completely protective, way beyond what reason would suggest. You're insane for that particular person, whereas men need admiration, which is basically, you know, that is the largest gazelle I've ever seen that you just dragged into the cave, man. I mean, that's going to feed our family for three. You're so big and strong, right?

And so it almost suggests that what guys need is like, just admiration. I need you to admire me more than anybody else admires me. Right. And we're not egomaniacs, but these are differences that actually would get back to, I'm going to just take care of you and the kids forever. And I'm going to protect you because I adore you so much. And you're going to admire me for this.

And so it almost suggests that what guys need is like, just admiration. I need you to admire me more than anybody else admires me. Right. And we're not egomaniacs, but these are differences that actually would get back to, I'm going to just take care of you and the kids forever. And I'm going to protect you because I adore you so much. And you're going to admire me for this.

And so it almost suggests that what guys need is like, just admiration. I need you to admire me more than anybody else admires me. Right. And we're not egomaniacs, but these are differences that actually would get back to, I'm going to just take care of you and the kids forever. And I'm going to protect you because I adore you so much. And you're going to admire me for this.

And again, I need to be admired. I mean, I do need to be adored as a husband and as a person and the whole thing. So it's not that simple, but there's a lot to that. There's a lot to that. And so one of the things that all guys will say, what's the secret? And it's number one, adore her. And number two, be admirable. Be admirable. Actually, be admirable.

And again, I need to be admired. I mean, I do need to be adored as a husband and as a person and the whole thing. So it's not that simple, but there's a lot to that. There's a lot to that. And so one of the things that all guys will say, what's the secret? And it's number one, adore her. And number two, be admirable. Be admirable. Actually, be admirable.

And again, I need to be admired. I mean, I do need to be adored as a husband and as a person and the whole thing. So it's not that simple, but there's a lot to that. There's a lot to that. And so one of the things that all guys will say, what's the secret? And it's number one, adore her. And number two, be admirable. Be admirable. Actually, be admirable.

She's not going to admire you if you're not admirable, for God's sake. And adore her. What if I don't feel it? I don't care. I don't care. Adore her. That's the secret. Weirdly. I mean... Yeah, there's more to it, but maybe not that much more to it.

She's not going to admire you if you're not admirable, for God's sake. And adore her. What if I don't feel it? I don't care. I don't care. Adore her. That's the secret. Weirdly. I mean... Yeah, there's more to it, but maybe not that much more to it.

She's not going to admire you if you're not admirable, for God's sake. And adore her. What if I don't feel it? I don't care. I don't care. Adore her. That's the secret. Weirdly. I mean... Yeah, there's more to it, but maybe not that much more to it.

Oh, men over-perceive attraction from women and women under-perceive attraction from men. Very reliably. Very reliably. It's like, ah, yeah, the waitress just smiled at me. I think she likes me. Dude. She wants a tip.