Arthur Brooks

when they're when it's actually mediated by that the better relationships actually come when somebody sets you up when you meet somebody through a mutual interest or through mutual people that you know and love that's really what it comes down to so people ask me it's like so where do i meet somebody and and you go someplace where you might meet the kind of person that you might conceivably find attractive so for example were you raised in a religion yeah but i don't practice it i don't care

when they're when it's actually mediated by that the better relationships actually come when somebody sets you up when you meet somebody through a mutual interest or through mutual people that you know and love that's really what it comes down to so people ask me it's like so where do i meet somebody and and you go someplace where you might meet the kind of person that you might conceivably find attractive so for example were you raised in a religion yeah but i don't practice it i don't care

when they're when it's actually mediated by that the better relationships actually come when somebody sets you up when you meet somebody through a mutual interest or through mutual people that you know and love that's really what it comes down to so people ask me it's like so where do i meet somebody and and you go someplace where you might meet the kind of person that you might conceivably find attractive so for example were you raised in a religion yeah but i don't practice it i don't care

go to church, right? Go to the church for all the young people go to, but I don't believe it. I don't care. That's not the point. The point is you could, you could believe it. The point is you don't hate it.

go to church, right? Go to the church for all the young people go to, but I don't believe it. I don't care. That's not the point. The point is you could, you could believe it. The point is you don't hate it.

go to church, right? Go to the church for all the young people go to, but I don't believe it. I don't care. That's not the point. The point is you could, you could believe it. The point is you don't hate it.

The point is you want to, you want somebody that has those values, for example, and somebody who has that in common with you potentially that you actually might find attractive and somebody who might talk to you despite the fact that you're bald or whatever thing that might not get you past the swipe left, right on the dating site. So number one is human mediated meeting. That's number one.

The point is you want to, you want somebody that has those values, for example, and somebody who has that in common with you potentially that you actually might find attractive and somebody who might talk to you despite the fact that you're bald or whatever thing that might not get you past the swipe left, right on the dating site. So number one is human mediated meeting. That's number one.

The point is you want to, you want somebody that has those values, for example, and somebody who has that in common with you potentially that you actually might find attractive and somebody who might talk to you despite the fact that you're bald or whatever thing that might not get you past the swipe left, right on the dating site. So number one is human mediated meeting. That's number one.

Number two, no more simulating, no more simulated, no more porn, no more pornography. And pornography is just absolute cancer for attraction and for expectation and relationships, especially for men, because men get deeply, deeply addicted to it. It just, it grabs you. And there's a lot of research on this. I mean, there's some research that suggests it's not addictive. That's not.

Number two, no more simulating, no more simulated, no more porn, no more pornography. And pornography is just absolute cancer for attraction and for expectation and relationships, especially for men, because men get deeply, deeply addicted to it. It just, it grabs you. And there's a lot of research on this. I mean, there's some research that suggests it's not addictive. That's not.

Number two, no more simulating, no more simulated, no more porn, no more pornography. And pornography is just absolute cancer for attraction and for expectation and relationships, especially for men, because men get deeply, deeply addicted to it. It just, it grabs you. And there's a lot of research on this. I mean, there's some research that suggests it's not addictive. That's not.

I've heard of him. Yeah. And as a matter of fact, I've seen some of his stuff on psychology, psychology today.

I've heard of him. Yeah. And as a matter of fact, I've seen some of his stuff on psychology, psychology today.

I've heard of him. Yeah. And as a matter of fact, I've seen some of his stuff on psychology, psychology today.

So I don't do this work. I don't do this work, but I find the preponderance of data compelling that it is highly addictive. And it does actually torque the expectations that men have about their relationships with women. And it tends to objectify women in ways that will harm your ability to go through the neurochemical cascade and get to oxytocin.

So I don't do this work. I don't do this work, but I find the preponderance of data compelling that it is highly addictive. And it does actually torque the expectations that men have about their relationships with women. And it tends to objectify women in ways that will harm your ability to go through the neurochemical cascade and get to oxytocin.

So I don't do this work. I don't do this work, but I find the preponderance of data compelling that it is highly addictive. And it does actually torque the expectations that men have about their relationships with women. And it tends to objectify women in ways that will harm your ability to go through the neurochemical cascade and get to oxytocin.

In other words, it tends to interrupt the cycle. You got to go through the stages. And if you're interrupting the stages because of something you're doing to your brain to get the satisfaction that comes from just stage one, it's a problem. That's not what we're actually made for. And again, I mean, I know there are some scholars that disagree with this, but I just don't find it compelling.

In other words, it tends to interrupt the cycle. You got to go through the stages. And if you're interrupting the stages because of something you're doing to your brain to get the satisfaction that comes from just stage one, it's a problem. That's not what we're actually made for. And again, I mean, I know there are some scholars that disagree with this, but I just don't find it compelling.