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Arthur Brooks

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Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

When you're ruminating, you can't stop thinking. You wake up thinking about it in the middle of the night. Usually, my serotonin levels are low because you're ruminating on something that's really important to you. That's why artists, they tend to be depressive and romantic.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Because it's all the same part of the brain and the same neurotransmitter associated with the behavior of how the brain works. So what's somebody who has very high serotonin like? What's their demeanor? That's somebody who's really calm and mellow. And it's like, no problem. And I can go think about something else. So yeah, I guess I'm falling in love. But you know, I got a lot going on.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Because it's all the same part of the brain and the same neurotransmitter associated with the behavior of how the brain works. So what's somebody who has very high serotonin like? What's their demeanor? That's somebody who's really calm and mellow. And it's like, no problem. And I can go think about something else. So yeah, I guess I'm falling in love. But you know, I got a lot going on.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Because it's all the same part of the brain and the same neurotransmitter associated with the behavior of how the brain works. So what's somebody who has very high serotonin like? What's their demeanor? That's somebody who's really calm and mellow. And it's like, no problem. And I can go think about something else. So yeah, I guess I'm falling in love. But you know, I got a lot going on.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

It's all good. Right? And so this is one of the reasons that some people will say that when they're on selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, SSRIs, it's hard to fall in love. Because you don't have that. What's she doing right now?

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

It's all good. Right? And so this is one of the reasons that some people will say that when they're on selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, SSRIs, it's hard to fall in love. Because you don't have that. What's she doing right now?

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

It's all good. Right? And so this is one of the reasons that some people will say that when they're on selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, SSRIs, it's hard to fall in love. Because you don't have that. What's she doing right now?

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Yeah. Obsession. And so that's in that period in the falling in love process, you send a hundred text messages in an hour, like an idiot. And you don't know why it's because you're ruminating, ruminating, ruminating, ruminating.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Yeah. Obsession. And so that's in that period in the falling in love process, you send a hundred text messages in an hour, like an idiot. And you don't know why it's because you're ruminating, ruminating, ruminating, ruminating.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Yeah. Obsession. And so that's in that period in the falling in love process, you send a hundred text messages in an hour, like an idiot. And you don't know why it's because you're ruminating, ruminating, ruminating, ruminating.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Is this the one that rips you away from yourself the most? And a lot of jealousy and a lot of behavior. That's the surveillance behavior, for example, and things you wouldn't otherwise do. You're going back into your new partner's ancient Facebook past. It's like, are you kidding me?

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Is this the one that rips you away from yourself the most? And a lot of jealousy and a lot of behavior. That's the surveillance behavior, for example, and things you wouldn't otherwise do. You're going back into your new partner's ancient Facebook past. It's like, are you kidding me?

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

Is this the one that rips you away from yourself the most? And a lot of jealousy and a lot of behavior. That's the surveillance behavior, for example, and things you wouldn't otherwise do. You're going back into your new partner's ancient Facebook past. It's like, are you kidding me?

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

But when you're in low serotonin, you can be like, I don't like this. I don't like this. I don't like the tone. Of that. Okay.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

But when you're in low serotonin, you can be like, I don't like this. I don't like this. I don't like the tone. Of that. Okay.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

But when you're in low serotonin, you can be like, I don't like this. I don't like this. I don't like the tone. Of that. Okay.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

So there's a lot that you can do behaviorally, by the way, once you understand the nature of anxiety. But we still haven't gotten to the end of the neurochemical cascade of falling in love. So this is actually one of the reasons that relationships struggle is when one person is going through the neurochemical cascade faster than the other. And certain people, they tend to go through it real quick.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

So there's a lot that you can do behaviorally, by the way, once you understand the nature of anxiety. But we still haven't gotten to the end of the neurochemical cascade of falling in love. So this is actually one of the reasons that relationships struggle is when one person is going through the neurochemical cascade faster than the other. And certain people, they tend to go through it real quick.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

So there's a lot that you can do behaviorally, by the way, once you understand the nature of anxiety. But we still haven't gotten to the end of the neurochemical cascade of falling in love. So this is actually one of the reasons that relationships struggle is when one person is going through the neurochemical cascade faster than the other. And certain people, they tend to go through it real quick.

Modern Wisdom
#931 - Arthur Brooks - Harvard Professor Reveals The Secret To Lasting Love & Happiness

There's actually a malady. There's a pathology called emophilia, not with an H. It's not a blood disorder. It's emophilia, which is people who fall in love too quickly. And what that means is they're just falling through this cascade really, really quickly. And they're just going, and by the second date, they're already doing surveillance behavior and jealousy and sending a million text messages.