Arthur Brooks

There's actually a malady. There's a pathology called emophilia, not with an H. It's not a blood disorder. It's emophilia, which is people who fall in love too quickly. And what that means is they're just falling through this cascade really, really quickly. And they're just going, and by the second date, they're already doing surveillance behavior and jealousy and sending a million text messages.

There's actually a malady. There's a pathology called emophilia, not with an H. It's not a blood disorder. It's emophilia, which is people who fall in love too quickly. And what that means is they're just falling through this cascade really, really quickly. And they're just going, and by the second date, they're already doing surveillance behavior and jealousy and sending a million text messages.

And so it happens to women more than men. And the guys are like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Like, this is too much. But guys do this too. They fall in love super fast. And the more they understand this about themselves, the more they can kind of hit the brakes and say, oh, I'm doing that. Knowledge is power, man.

And so it happens to women more than men. And the guys are like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Like, this is too much. But guys do this too. They fall in love super fast. And the more they understand this about themselves, the more they can kind of hit the brakes and say, oh, I'm doing that. Knowledge is power, man.

And so it happens to women more than men. And the guys are like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Like, this is too much. But guys do this too. They fall in love super fast. And the more they understand this about themselves, the more they can kind of hit the brakes and say, oh, I'm doing that. Knowledge is power, man.

Because then when you bring your prefrontal cortex into the business, you can actually start to manage the process more and not let it manage you. So you don't feel like you're possessed by a demon or something every time. And then you're not freaking out and scaring away girls is how this would work.

Because then when you bring your prefrontal cortex into the business, you can actually start to manage the process more and not let it manage you. So you don't feel like you're possessed by a demon or something every time. And then you're not freaking out and scaring away girls is how this would work.

Because then when you bring your prefrontal cortex into the business, you can actually start to manage the process more and not let it manage you. So you don't feel like you're possessed by a demon or something every time. And then you're not freaking out and scaring away girls is how this would work.

Uh, okay. So that's stage three. No, that's three is, is the serotonin stage. Yes. All right. And stage four is, is, is really where you want to get in a relationship and ideally on the same schedule. And this is where relationships become pair bonds pair and pair bond mating is the goal, right? I mean, what we all want, I mean, except for relationships.

Uh, okay. So that's stage three. No, that's three is, is the serotonin stage. Yes. All right. And stage four is, is, is really where you want to get in a relationship and ideally on the same schedule. And this is where relationships become pair bonds pair and pair bond mating is the goal, right? I mean, what we all want, I mean, except for relationships.

Uh, okay. So that's stage three. No, that's three is, is the serotonin stage. Yes. All right. And stage four is, is, is really where you want to get in a relationship and ideally on the same schedule. And this is where relationships become pair bonds pair and pair bond mating is the goal, right? I mean, what we all want, I mean, except for relationships.

people who are really, really modern, but this isn't common. People want to fall in love and stay in love with one person for the rest of their lives. That's what people want, right? For a good reason. And I think that this is sort of the natural order of things when things are working properly. The last one is usually characteristic of oxytocin and vasopressin, which are the bonding hormones.

people who are really, really modern, but this isn't common. People want to fall in love and stay in love with one person for the rest of their lives. That's what people want, right? For a good reason. And I think that this is sort of the natural order of things when things are working properly. The last one is usually characteristic of oxytocin and vasopressin, which are the bonding hormones.

people who are really, really modern, but this isn't common. People want to fall in love and stay in love with one person for the rest of their lives. That's what people want, right? For a good reason. And I think that this is sort of the natural order of things when things are working properly. The last one is usually characteristic of oxytocin and vasopressin, which are the bonding hormones.

And when this really kicks in, that's when you're at the point where you adopt somebody as your kin, right?

And when this really kicks in, that's when you're at the point where you adopt somebody as your kin, right?

And when this really kicks in, that's when you're at the point where you adopt somebody as your kin, right?

this is this is this becomes your family and you know somebody from a neighboring tribe that you've never seen before somebody from the other part of the world who doesn't even speak your language you can you can adopt that person into your kin group and that's when the oxytocin which largely is mediated by activities like direct eye contact in real life by touch in particular that's how you know somebody is your kin and they know that you're theirs

this is this is this becomes your family and you know somebody from a neighboring tribe that you've never seen before somebody from the other part of the world who doesn't even speak your language you can you can adopt that person into your kin group and that's when the oxytocin which largely is mediated by activities like direct eye contact in real life by touch in particular that's how you know somebody is your kin and they know that you're theirs

this is this is this becomes your family and you know somebody from a neighboring tribe that you've never seen before somebody from the other part of the world who doesn't even speak your language you can you can adopt that person into your kin group and that's when the oxytocin which largely is mediated by activities like direct eye contact in real life by touch in particular that's how you know somebody is your kin and they know that you're theirs