Arthur Brooks

And if you can turn that around and how you do that, knowledge and practice. The knowledge is don't do it. The practice is touch and eye contact. And then life gets better. What else is some of the suboptimal habits? Of couples.

And if you can turn that around and how you do that, knowledge and practice. The knowledge is don't do it. The practice is touch and eye contact. And then life gets better. What else is some of the suboptimal habits? Of couples.

And if you can turn that around and how you do that, knowledge and practice. The knowledge is don't do it. The practice is touch and eye contact. And then life gets better. What else is some of the suboptimal habits? Of couples.

Number one is, well, I mean, anything that actually pulls people apart so they have insufficient contact, neurophysiologically insufficient contact with each other is going to create a real problem. And so, for example, what you'll find is the habit of doing what you're really, really good at as opposed to what you're getting worse at.

Number one is, well, I mean, anything that actually pulls people apart so they have insufficient contact, neurophysiologically insufficient contact with each other is going to create a real problem. And so, for example, what you'll find is the habit of doing what you're really, really good at as opposed to what you're getting worse at.

Number one is, well, I mean, anything that actually pulls people apart so they have insufficient contact, neurophysiologically insufficient contact with each other is going to create a real problem. And so, for example, what you'll find is the habit of doing what you're really, really good at as opposed to what you're getting worse at.

People will be getting, they'll be losing their relationship chops while they're getting better in their careers. And so they're spending a lot more time. One of the reasons they spend a lot more time at work is because that's what they're better at and that's where they're getting their satisfaction.

People will be getting, they'll be losing their relationship chops while they're getting better in their careers. And so they're spending a lot more time. One of the reasons they spend a lot more time at work is because that's what they're better at and that's where they're getting their satisfaction.

People will be getting, they'll be losing their relationship chops while they're getting better in their careers. And so they're spending a lot more time. One of the reasons they spend a lot more time at work is because that's what they're better at and that's where they're getting their satisfaction.

And that's one of the things that you find is that your career will never keep you warm. but your spouse will.

And that's one of the things that you find is that your career will never keep you warm. but your spouse will.

And that's one of the things that you find is that your career will never keep you warm. but your spouse will.

It'll make them special. And that's the special versus happy. A lot of people will choose specialness over happiness. Why? The world wants you to be special, wants you to stand out. The world, Mother Nature wants you to be special. Mother Nature does not care if you're happy, Chris. She does not care. She wants you to survive and pass on your genes.

It'll make them special. And that's the special versus happy. A lot of people will choose specialness over happiness. Why? The world wants you to be special, wants you to stand out. The world, Mother Nature wants you to be special. Mother Nature does not care if you're happy, Chris. She does not care. She wants you to survive and pass on your genes.

It'll make them special. And that's the special versus happy. A lot of people will choose specialness over happiness. Why? The world wants you to be special, wants you to stand out. The world, Mother Nature wants you to be special. Mother Nature does not care if you're happy, Chris. She does not care. She wants you to survive and pass on your genes.

And when you're really excellent and outstanding and getting more resources and getting better at your job, you're going to be more special, but you will be less happy. And that's why people will become, will walk into mediocrity in their marriage while they're walking toward excellence in their work. Hmm. And the result is they're going to be less happy. They're just going to be less happy.

And when you're really excellent and outstanding and getting more resources and getting better at your job, you're going to be more special, but you will be less happy. And that's why people will become, will walk into mediocrity in their marriage while they're walking toward excellence in their work. Hmm. And the result is they're going to be less happy. They're just going to be less happy.

And when you're really excellent and outstanding and getting more resources and getting better at your job, you're going to be more special, but you will be less happy. And that's why people will become, will walk into mediocrity in their marriage while they're walking toward excellence in their work. Hmm. And the result is they're going to be less happy. They're just going to be less happy.

Anyway, it's, it's, I'm addicted to success. And there's all this interesting neuroscience on success addiction. You know, when people are told, you know, usually good students who are also good athletes as kids, and they get all their validation from parents, and that gives them this neurochemical reward from success. You're such a hard worker. And that's another good report card.

Anyway, it's, it's, I'm addicted to success. And there's all this interesting neuroscience on success addiction. You know, when people are told, you know, usually good students who are also good athletes as kids, and they get all their validation from parents, and that gives them this neurochemical reward from success. You're such a hard worker. And that's another good report card.