Arthur Brooks

Anyway, it's, it's, I'm addicted to success. And there's all this interesting neuroscience on success addiction. You know, when people are told, you know, usually good students who are also good athletes as kids, and they get all their validation from parents, and that gives them this neurochemical reward from success. You're such a hard worker. And that's another good report card.

And they're looking for the next gold star for their whole lives. These are the people when they get past the flush of a relationship and it starts to become a little bit boring, then they'll just like lean in to the specialness. They'll lean into the specialness. the adulation that actually comes from excellence in their work and let their marriage become utterly mediocre.

And they're looking for the next gold star for their whole lives. These are the people when they get past the flush of a relationship and it starts to become a little bit boring, then they'll just like lean in to the specialness. They'll lean into the specialness. the adulation that actually comes from excellence in their work and let their marriage become utterly mediocre.

And they're looking for the next gold star for their whole lives. These are the people when they get past the flush of a relationship and it starts to become a little bit boring, then they'll just like lean in to the specialness. They'll lean into the specialness. the adulation that actually comes from excellence in their work and let their marriage become utterly mediocre.

And you might be very admirable. You might be really, really admirable. The problem is that you're not adoring. That you're, you've stopped adoring because all you've, again, there's two things you need to do, guys. You need to be, you need to be adoring and admirable. And if you do a hundred percent admirable and zero percent adoring, you're going to lose your relationship.

And you might be very admirable. You might be really, really admirable. The problem is that you're not adoring. That you're, you've stopped adoring because all you've, again, there's two things you need to do, guys. You need to be, you need to be adoring and admirable. And if you do a hundred percent admirable and zero percent adoring, you're going to lose your relationship.

And you might be very admirable. You might be really, really admirable. The problem is that you're not adoring. That you're, you've stopped adoring because all you've, again, there's two things you need to do, guys. You need to be, you need to be adoring and admirable. And if you do a hundred percent admirable and zero percent adoring, you're going to lose your relationship.

Phenomenal. How long was your tour?

Phenomenal. How long was your tour?

Phenomenal. How long was your tour?

It's sick. I really, I love it. That's the best. It's the best. Touring is the best. It's so fun. Yeah. It's so fun. I mean, some people hate it, right? I love it. I've been on tour since I was 19. You know, I was a French horn player. Either French horning or talking about... Oh, it's the best. It's the best. Talking in front of real people and getting up.

It's sick. I really, I love it. That's the best. It's the best. Touring is the best. It's so fun. Yeah. It's so fun. I mean, some people hate it, right? I love it. I've been on tour since I was 19. You know, I was a French horn player. Either French horning or talking about... Oh, it's the best. It's the best. Talking in front of real people and getting up.

It's sick. I really, I love it. That's the best. It's the best. Touring is the best. It's so fun. Yeah. It's so fun. I mean, some people hate it, right? I love it. I've been on tour since I was 19. You know, I was a French horn player. Either French horning or talking about... Oh, it's the best. It's the best. Talking in front of real people and getting up.

But you're also very... Are you an extrovert? I would say introvert. Are you? But I can swing both ways. The real question about that is not whether you can perform. The question is whether or not you've got more or less energy after a performance in front of people.

But you're also very... Are you an extrovert? I would say introvert. Are you? But I can swing both ways. The real question about that is not whether you can perform. The question is whether or not you've got more or less energy after a performance in front of people.

But you're also very... Are you an extrovert? I would say introvert. Are you? But I can swing both ways. The real question about that is not whether you can perform. The question is whether or not you've got more or less energy after a performance in front of people.

Yep. Parents, okay.

Yep. Parents, okay.

Yep. Parents, okay.

Good parents still together? Yes. Okay.