Arthur C. Brooks

That's a very important thing to keep in mind is to do a little bit of a, to look back on it forensically and say, what am I not looking for this time?

And there are – there's actually a syndrome called hemophilia, not with an H. Hemophilia is a blood disorder.

I was going to say, I think it's blood.

Hemophilia is a small minority of women, but considerable enough, who fall in love super easily.

They fall in love too fast.

And that's going through a neurochemical process in their brains of the sex hormones followed by the dopamine and norepinephrine followed by serotonin drops and then just all these –

chemical changes in their brain that go too quickly.

And they actually have to self-manage in a way because they know their particular tendencies.

These are just walking targets for dark triad men.

See how they talk to their mom.

Got some battle scars.

Yeah, no, that's a key thing.

And so all of this is knowledge.

All of this is experience.

Now, here's the interesting thing to keep in mind.

Those terrible experiences are not something to bury or to be avoided because that suffering itself and all suffering is the next source of meaning.

And this is a big problem that young people have today is they're trying to avoid suffering.

They're being told that sadness, that to be anxious is evidence that something's wrong with you.

And that's actually not correct.

I mean, it can be exaggerated.