Arthur C. Brooks

They have it kind of accumulating, but they don't show it to anybody else.

They get home, they're like, here.

And the problem is it's not okay.

I mean, you need to share to be sure, but you also have to bring home the positive.

You have to bring home the positive.

And so there are a couple of ways to do that.

Number one is you need to reserve beautiful things and you have to lead with beautiful things before you actually say, and here's my garbage, sweetheart.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, totally.

He's the trash compactor.

The second, I mean, there's a bunch of different ways to be thinking about that that are really, really positive.

But this is really the most, one of the most important things that we can remember is that you will tire out your partner.

Another thing, a second way to think about this is that, of course, you're going to be hearing this from your partner, you're gonna be hearing this from your spouse.

disregard negative feelings more in your spouse.

Think more.

And this is really important because a lot of couples that are really close, they're thinking about each other's feelings too much and they're a little bit too influenced.

And one of the characteristics that really happy couples that get happier as they go along have in common is they don't really, how do I put this?

They don't care that much if their partner's bummed out.

It's like, she'll be all right.

She's talking.

She'll be all right.