Arthur C. Brooks

It's completely, it's actually important.

Okay.

Because if, if when you're bummed out, she's bummed out.

And when she's bummed out, you're bummed out.

You're going to be in a negative cycle a lot.

You're going to bring each other down a little bit too much.

And so that's an important thing for actually staying positive.

Yeah.

This is what I was talking about a minute ago.

This is actually the idea that it's really successful couples.

They tend to get more spiritual or religious together over time.

And they really grow in parallel.

They lead each other as spiritual teachers.

And this has been super important.

My wife wasn't religious at all.

And I was a lot more religious than she was when we first got married.

And I was kind of pulling and pulling and dragging and dragging.

Now she's the one who leads me.

And we pray together a lot and we read scripture together.

It's been a really, really important part of our lives and has bonded us together in ways that we never actually knew was possible.