Ashlyn Harris

Well, can I turn it around?

Like my last retreat was six to nine months ago. I've got one coming up. So I'm like further and further away from sanity. But you are much fresher. Like you've just come out of a retreat. How do you balance that?

Like my last retreat was six to nine months ago. I've got one coming up. So I'm like further and further away from sanity. But you are much fresher. Like you've just come out of a retreat. How do you balance that?

Well, it does. I think you're aware through your own practice that there's more than just the J you see in the mirror.

Well, it does. I think you're aware through your own practice that there's more than just the J you see in the mirror.

And yet you live in a busy world and you're actually, like me, you're kind of building a business around the small version of yourself, like the physical corporeal version of yourself that presents here and now, smaller than the sort of vast, infinite, mysterious, we don't know what that is somehow, it lives in your mind. And the way that you balance it, I heard, is

And yet you live in a busy world and you're actually, like me, you're kind of building a business around the small version of yourself, like the physical corporeal version of yourself that presents here and now, smaller than the sort of vast, infinite, mysterious, we don't know what that is somehow, it lives in your mind. And the way that you balance it, I heard, is

just engage in the messy business of trying to remember to the best of your ability.

just engage in the messy business of trying to remember to the best of your ability.

Exactly. I mean, I think the biggest problem In my experience, the biggest problem in whatever, again, like I don't know what to call this, personal growth, spiritual development, whatever it is, the biggest challenge is forgetting. Because you hear a great podcast, you see a great Instagram post, you read a great book, you go to a great retreat.

Exactly. I mean, I think the biggest problem In my experience, the biggest problem in whatever, again, like I don't know what to call this, personal growth, spiritual development, whatever it is, the biggest challenge is forgetting. Because you hear a great podcast, you see a great Instagram post, you read a great book, you go to a great retreat.

But then everything about modern life pulls you back into the I'm going to get satisfaction from the next thing. Oh, no, no. The next thing I'm going to keep scrolling. I'm going to get that next sip of a latte. I'm going to get the next promotion. And again, I'm not saying these are bad things, but they won't do it for you.

But then everything about modern life pulls you back into the I'm going to get satisfaction from the next thing. Oh, no, no. The next thing I'm going to keep scrolling. I'm going to get that next sip of a latte. I'm going to get the next promotion. And again, I'm not saying these are bad things, but they won't do it for you.

There's a reason why you keep wanting more, because the way the human animal is designed is that natural selection didn't want us to be satisfied, because then we'd stop having babies, and that wouldn't be good for the species. So you need to wake. This is an urgent mission.

There's a reason why you keep wanting more, because the way the human animal is designed is that natural selection didn't want us to be satisfied, because then we'd stop having babies, and that wouldn't be good for the species. So you need to wake. This is an urgent mission.

You need to find as many ways as possible to wake back up, and you just described meditation is a great way to pound this stuff into your neurons. It's probably too aggressive of an analogy, but it gets it into your molecules in a way. And another thing you also described earlier is having good friends.

You need to find as many ways as possible to wake back up, and you just described meditation is a great way to pound this stuff into your neurons. It's probably too aggressive of an analogy, but it gets it into your molecules in a way. And another thing you also described earlier is having good friends.

You know, if you can surround yourself with people who are also taking this thing seriously, that is a great way to wake yourself back up. And also, by the way, is a great way to get you out of your attachment to the sort of, I don't know if this is the appropriate term to use, but the sort of smallest, most superficial version of yourself, the brand of Dan, the brand of Jay.

You know, if you can surround yourself with people who are also taking this thing seriously, that is a great way to wake yourself back up. And also, by the way, is a great way to get you out of your attachment to the sort of, I don't know if this is the appropriate term to use, but the sort of smallest, most superficial version of yourself, the brand of Dan, the brand of Jay.

Well, if you're talking to your best friend and he's got a problem and you're helping him with it, another word for that would be generosity, right? If you're being generous in some way, that's going to get you out of your head. That is a form of letting go.