Ashlyn Harris

Well, if you're talking to your best friend and he's got a problem and you're helping him with it, another word for that would be generosity, right? If you're being generous in some way, that's going to get you out of your head. That is a form of letting go.

There's a little line that I have, which is impolite, but the view is so much better when you pull your head out of your ass. And, you know, if you're being generous, your head's out of your ass. Even if you have ulterior motives, which I think we unfairly demonize. Like, it's okay to give because, you know, you have some... There's something in it for you.

There's a little line that I have, which is impolite, but the view is so much better when you pull your head out of your ass. And, you know, if you're being generous, your head's out of your ass. Even if you have ulterior motives, which I think we unfairly demonize. Like, it's okay to give because, you know, you have some... There's something in it for you.

By the way, there is something in it for you. The brain is wired to experience intense reward in the act of generosity. That's cool. But you're still more of your bandwidth...

By the way, there is something in it for you. The brain is wired to experience intense reward in the act of generosity. That's cool. But you're still more of your bandwidth...

focused on the benefit to somebody else than there would be if you were like mindlessly scrolling or binging or eating or whatever it is and it is just fundamentally getting your head out of your ass in whatever form you choose and it doesn't have to be giving money it can be holding the door open for somebody like i i sometimes ask people to do this little mental

focused on the benefit to somebody else than there would be if you were like mindlessly scrolling or binging or eating or whatever it is and it is just fundamentally getting your head out of your ass in whatever form you choose and it doesn't have to be giving money it can be holding the door open for somebody like i i sometimes ask people to do this little mental

very easy mental game of like pay attention the next time you hold the door open for somebody what does that feel like feels good if you're paying attention that feeling is infinitely scalable in a way that the pleasure of instagram or ice cream is not and i just you can ride that insight not that i do it perfectly if at all but you can if you're so inclined ride that insight all the way to a significantly greater levels of happiness

very easy mental game of like pay attention the next time you hold the door open for somebody what does that feel like feels good if you're paying attention that feeling is infinitely scalable in a way that the pleasure of instagram or ice cream is not and i just you can ride that insight not that i do it perfectly if at all but you can if you're so inclined ride that insight all the way to a significantly greater levels of happiness

Yeah. It doesn't mean you should ever do it. I just, it's just the endless part that you should lose.

Yeah. It doesn't mean you should ever do it. I just, it's just the endless part that you should lose.

There's a way in which you can assume that sitting and meditating or even going to a, can you believe this dude went to a monastery for 10 days a couple days ago? That's not going to help him with his edge, but actually it does help you. It does help you. Do you want to be less emotionally reactive? Do you want to be more focused? Do you want to have better relationships with your collaborators?

There's a way in which you can assume that sitting and meditating or even going to a, can you believe this dude went to a monastery for 10 days a couple days ago? That's not going to help him with his edge, but actually it does help you. It does help you. Do you want to be less emotionally reactive? Do you want to be more focused? Do you want to have better relationships with your collaborators?

Okay, do you think going to a monastery is going to help or hurt with those things? It's going to help with all of those things, and those are the things we need to be successful. We've been sold through hustle culture, this idea that, you know, thank God it's Monday. I've got to rise and grind and all of that stuff.

Okay, do you think going to a monastery is going to help or hurt with those things? It's going to help with all of those things, and those are the things we need to be successful. We've been sold through hustle culture, this idea that, you know, thank God it's Monday. I've got to rise and grind and all of that stuff.

But that that is, in my experience, a great way to burn out when, in fact, the cycle that you just talked about of. uh, retreat to advance kind of, you know, you, you take some, you don't have to do it. It doesn't even have to be a retreat. It can be just five minutes of meditation every day that that is filling your tank in a way that allows you to engage in the world more effectively.

But that that is, in my experience, a great way to burn out when, in fact, the cycle that you just talked about of. uh, retreat to advance kind of, you know, you, you take some, you don't have to do it. It doesn't even have to be a retreat. It can be just five minutes of meditation every day that that is filling your tank in a way that allows you to engage in the world more effectively.

And so these, these two things are not in opposition in my experience. And you're a walking example of that. Like you spent time being a monk and that has helped you build a business that helps other people that helps you do more inner work. Boom.

And so these, these two things are not in opposition in my experience. And you're a walking example of that. Like you spent time being a monk and that has helped you build a business that helps other people that helps you do more inner work. Boom.

I'm actually, I'm excited. You're interviewing me right now, but in like two minutes, we're going to turn this around and I'm going to interview you. Because we come from different traditions. So I actually come into my discussion with you with a lot of curiosity about what your meditation is like. So from a Buddhist standpoint, it's for beginners, really not complex.