Ashlyn Harris
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188 appearances
15 recordings
4 series
first heard Dec 2024
last heard Apr 2025
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There's a great expression. If it's hysterical, it's historical. You know, it's like you're getting hysterical about something. There's some it's some deep programming. And yeah, I hate admitting that. Yeah.
I mean, you interview all sorts of people, but you interview a lot of like great folks from the meditation world. And so do I. And so in my experience, the common denominator among all of the great like spiritual masters, right, if that's a term that you're okay with, the common denominator is they all have a sense of humor. Because how can you look at this mind without laughing after a while?
The word that my meditation teacher, Joseph Goldstein, uses most frequently is ridiculous.
We're ridiculous. And it's just, it's so healthy to see that and laugh at it.
To pick up on the instant part of it, you know, it kind of takes me back to the first question you asked around stress. And we talked about some of the contributors. I think one of the contributors is that we live in a world that doesn't have enough friction, that we've created a world for young people.
And to me, you're a young person, but because I'm in my 50s and you're in your 30s, but I have a nine-year-old who's a much younger person. And we You know, there's a way that older people can blame younger people for their this generation or kids today or whatever. But this is a world we've created for them where there isn't a lot of friction. You can get everything you want on demand.
And as a consequence, people are intolerant of discomfort. And that is creating a lot of anxiety because life is uncomfortable. And there are going to be stressful and scary situations. And your ability to thrive is going to be directly correlated to your ability to handle this. And if we don't Get comfortable with discomfort. We're going to suffer. And there are ways to work with this.
One of them is this thing that it's a psychological term, opposite action. You know, when you I'll give you an example. I have intense claustrophobia. And when your colleague Jordan came to pick me up in the lobby of the hotel in which we're doing this interview and take me up the elevator, I said, I have to ride alone. because I didn't want to have a panic attack in front of her.
But I got on the elevator. I didn't want to. I thought about walking 30 flights. And I've done that before.
How did you set this up, dude? What are you doing to me? No, I... But the lesson here is that I need to get on elevators regularly. That's the way out of this. It's opposite action. I need to do the thing I'm scared of. Carefully, I don't want to give myself a panic attack, although there are some people who argue that that is a way through this.
But for me, I just kind of gently expose myself to the stuff I'm afraid of. And so I actually look – I relish the opportunity to get on an elevator or to take a subway ride. I just have to do it in the right circumstances. So – I didn't inflict it upon Jordan. I just took a different elevator.
And I actually think this is one of the ways out, one of the ways out of the epidemic of stress and anxiety that we began this conversation with, which is to, in whatever way in your own life, to just dose yourself carefully and gently with some discomfort, to take the opposite action, do the opposite of what
You want to do, which may be to, you know, hide from the discomfort, go to that party, accept the invitation, ask that person out for a cup of coffee, press like on that Instagram post, you know, little steps like that will will equip you and arm you to move through a world that is largely out of your control.
Clear your mind.
Make awesome shit that helps people do their lives better.
Well, I got a tattoo recently. Oh, nice. It's an acronym F-T-B-O-A-B. It's way off brand for me in terms of like it's cheesier than I like to be. But it stands. It's a Buddhist phrase for the benefit of all beings. And we talked about my anger habit. But one of my other habits that I also mentioned that I don't like is a kind of selfishness or greed. And so.
I really try to remind myself as much as possible, like, no, I'm answering this in more than a word.
But I try to remind myself, yeah, this is for the benefit of all beings. And the A, the all, I'm included in that. So it's not like I can't make a living or whatever. But having it right here next to my watch, I'm trying to put that thought in my head more frequently.
How long do most people pause? Because I'm thinking.
Okay. What law?
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