Ashlyn Harris

Don't always succeed at that, but I notice when I do it, I feel better. And that leads to the second piece of advice, which is As you know, I'm a big advocate of meditation, as are you.

And I think the self-awareness that can be generated through contemplative exercises like meditation can help wake you up to the fact that you will feel better if you don't get sucked into your phone for prolonged periods of time. And that can – the brain is always looking for pleasure.

And I think the self-awareness that can be generated through contemplative exercises like meditation can help wake you up to the fact that you will feel better if you don't get sucked into your phone for prolonged periods of time. And that can – the brain is always looking for pleasure.

And if you can show the brain that there's what my friend Jud Brewer calls a bigger, better offer, which is that it will feel better to connect to your family most of the time because sometimes our families are annoying. But it will feel better to connect to other people, to read a book, to take a walk in nature than it will to, you know, attach your arm to the –

And if you can show the brain that there's what my friend Jud Brewer calls a bigger, better offer, which is that it will feel better to connect to your family most of the time because sometimes our families are annoying. But it will feel better to connect to other people, to read a book, to take a walk in nature than it will to, you know, attach your arm to the –

IV drip of FOMO that social media can be. And so I think meditation is a great way to do that. The final thing is, see if you can ask yourself this question. And I get this from a woman named Catherine Price, who wrote a book that I recommend called How to Break Up With Your Phone.

IV drip of FOMO that social media can be. And so I think meditation is a great way to do that. The final thing is, see if you can ask yourself this question. And I get this from a woman named Catherine Price, who wrote a book that I recommend called How to Break Up With Your Phone.

She encourages people to ask themselves, to try to get in the habit of asking themselves a very simple question when they're when they find their zombie arm reaching for the phone, what do you need right now? What need are you trying to fulfill when you pick up that phone?

She encourages people to ask themselves, to try to get in the habit of asking themselves a very simple question when they're when they find their zombie arm reaching for the phone, what do you need right now? What need are you trying to fulfill when you pick up that phone?

For me, it's often because I'm bored or I'm in an uncomfortable situation or I'm tired and I don't have the wherewithal to do something or I'm lonely or I'm hungry. And actually, if you run that program, you run that algorithm internally for yourself, You know, you're only going to remember this 10% of the time.

For me, it's often because I'm bored or I'm in an uncomfortable situation or I'm tired and I don't have the wherewithal to do something or I'm lonely or I'm hungry. And actually, if you run that program, you run that algorithm internally for yourself, You know, you're only going to remember this 10% of the time.

But if you can remember to do it some percentage of the time and ask yourself, what is it that I'm actually going for here? You might realize, actually, the phone is not what I need right now. And for me, I found that really helpful. Doesn't work all the time, but it helps.

But if you can remember to do it some percentage of the time and ask yourself, what is it that I'm actually going for here? You might realize, actually, the phone is not what I need right now. And for me, I found that really helpful. Doesn't work all the time, but it helps.

It's not my phrase, but it's from this guy, Dr. Judd Brewer. And he's written some books about anxiety and it's called The Bigger, Better Offer.

It's not my phrase, but it's from this guy, Dr. Judd Brewer. And he's written some books about anxiety and it's called The Bigger, Better Offer.

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Yeah, I'm sure. And I think it goes to something really important, which is personal growth, spiritual development, whatever you want to call it, is hard and messy. And perfection is not an offer.