Athena Kugblenu

I think it's the selfish lies we need to deal with.

The kind of lies that might make people money.

The kind of lies that might harm others.

The kind of lies that might win people votes.

We need to get better at distinguishing between the acceptable lies and the unacceptable lies.

And the way to do this is to get fib literate.

Want to be qualified in fibs?

Ask yourself this question when you're given the opportunity to lie or when you've been given information and you're not sure it's true.

Ask yourself, who will benefit?

Some examples, you get home late, you're tired, your partner was supposed to put the bins out.

They have not.

Worse, they're going to go out, and you're going to have to do the job yourself.

And before they leave, they ask you, are you mad?

You're furious, you're incensed, but you say, I'm not mad.

That could be a good lie, okay?

They can take the bins out next week, it's not a big deal.

You're furious because you're tired, it's not a big deal.

That's a good lie.

Who benefits from that lie?

Both of you in that relationship.