Ayelet Fishbach

They make you engage.

You get to connect to other people over goals.

You get to feel good.

Whether you have actually reached all these goals on your to-do list, often who cares?

It doesn't really matter.

It matters that you made progress.

I'm not a fan of strictly making sure that you checked everything on the list.

A goal system.

Now, a goal system is basically you writing down the main goals that you currently wanted to pursue.

So it doesn't need to be in your entire life.

But in this time in the year, like what are the things that are important for me?

And they could be like in terms of my social relationship at work.

projects at home, what are the things that you want to achieve?

And then what are the activities that serve any of these goals and understand the relationship between these goals, between these activities, being particular on the look for activities that help you achieve several goals simultaneously.

These are the things that you want to do.

You motivate yourself by changing the situation and the framing of the situation.

It's not about fantasizing that you will be a different person.

It's really about changing what's around you and how you see that, how you find your outlook of what's around you.

This is basically the lesson, by the way, from the social sciences.

So this is not just for motivation.