Barry Baines

to me that that always is important is understanding that even though your loved ones are gone it doesn't end the relationship that you have with them or that you had with them it's different you know because they're they're not there and I think one of the fears that

to me that that always is important is understanding that even though your loved ones are gone it doesn't end the relationship that you have with them or that you had with them it's different you know because they're they're not there and I think one of the fears that

that I used to have, but I figured out a way to get around it is I worry that I'm, you know, that I'm going to forget about them and forget about that relationship. And so for me, when, when I lose a loved one, I want to ensure a way that I can remember them. And, you know, like I said, I've done, you know, a show on ethical wills where you kind of leave your values and things like that.

that I used to have, but I figured out a way to get around it is I worry that I'm, you know, that I'm going to forget about them and forget about that relationship. And so for me, when, when I lose a loved one, I want to ensure a way that I can remember them. And, you know, like I said, I've done, you know, a show on ethical wills where you kind of leave your values and things like that.

So I always try and carry some legacy that, from loved ones. And that always rekindles the relationship and just makes it easier because the grief never totally goes away. It's always with you, this idea of get over it. It's more, how do you integrate yourself as a person with losses? Because all of us have losses

So I always try and carry some legacy that, from loved ones. And that always rekindles the relationship and just makes it easier because the grief never totally goes away. It's always with you, this idea of get over it. It's more, how do you integrate yourself as a person with losses? Because all of us have losses

You know, through our lifetimes and some of it is, you know, losing, you know, losing loved ones. And that's what we're going to be focusing on. So my personal piece of that is how do you make it meaningful? Everybody grieves at their own rate and pace. And it just it doesn't go away. And the relationship doesn't go away either.

You know, through our lifetimes and some of it is, you know, losing, you know, losing loved ones. And that's what we're going to be focusing on. So my personal piece of that is how do you make it meaningful? Everybody grieves at their own rate and pace. And it just it doesn't go away. And the relationship doesn't go away either.

So it's a lasting relationship as long as you're alive to remember a person that you love that's gone. it helps to kind of get through the days sometime. I have one really quick humorous story and then I'll kind of be quiet here.

So it's a lasting relationship as long as you're alive to remember a person that you love that's gone. it helps to kind of get through the days sometime. I have one really quick humorous story and then I'll kind of be quiet here.

But I always remember my mom and my dad, when they had tough decisions that, you know, even though like my grandmother, my Bubby, even though she was gone, both my dad and my mom would, you know, kind of, you know, talk to her, they wouldn't go to a medium to contact her, but it was sort of like, you know, what would Bubby do in an, you know, in this kind of situation.

But I always remember my mom and my dad, when they had tough decisions that, you know, even though like my grandmother, my Bubby, even though she was gone, both my dad and my mom would, you know, kind of, you know, talk to her, they wouldn't go to a medium to contact her, but it was sort of like, you know, what would Bubby do in an, you know, in this kind of situation.

So, so they're also, you can call them up to consult, you know, with you in your mind's eye, in your mind's eye. And that's, that's very, you know, that's very important too. So I say, obviously as a hospice medical director, I've, I, deal, you know, deal a lot with people who go through that.

So, so they're also, you can call them up to consult, you know, with you in your mind's eye, in your mind's eye. And that's, that's very, you know, that's very important too. So I say, obviously as a hospice medical director, I've, I, deal, you know, deal a lot with people who go through that.

And it has really sensitized me to, you know, some of the before conversation, you know, Clarence, that everybody does it in their own way. That's not one size fits all. Correct. I said too much already. I'm going to be quiet now.

And it has really sensitized me to, you know, some of the before conversation, you know, Clarence, that everybody does it in their own way. That's not one size fits all. Correct. I said too much already. I'm going to be quiet now.

I think the, you know, ritual traditions, how they relate to religion, being Jewish, what I appreciate is the ability to actually stretch out the grieving process. A lot of times, you know, when a person dies, it's sort of like the pressure to get over it. And, and that actually creates a lot of health issues for people.

I think the, you know, ritual traditions, how they relate to religion, being Jewish, what I appreciate is the ability to actually stretch out the grieving process. A lot of times, you know, when a person dies, it's sort of like the pressure to get over it. And, and that actually creates a lot of health issues for people.

Um, and you know, in, in Judaism with death, you get this gathering of community to really help. And it's just how it stages that grief where that, that first week, uh, in Judaism is called the Shiva period. Um, where, you know, basically you, uh, it's, it's supposed to be seven, seven days long Shiva means seven in, uh, in Hebrew. Um,

Um, and you know, in, in Judaism with death, you get this gathering of community to really help. And it's just how it stages that grief where that, that first week, uh, in Judaism is called the Shiva period. Um, where, you know, basically you, uh, it's, it's supposed to be seven, seven days long Shiva means seven in, uh, in Hebrew. Um,