Becky G

And if it's gonna continue in the words of Esther Perel, I love her, it's gotta be a new relationship because what was can no longer be anymore.

And I know that there's a lot of things with like betrayal in relationships, any type of betrayal trauma in general, it's like, it'll never be the same again, but maybe that's the point.

Yes.

I think removing myself from the relationship.

Yeah.

And in a way that was about not just like self-preservation, obviously, like I was distraught and broken in a lot of ways.

But I think it was more like removing myself from the context of anyone I've ever had to be something to.

So it was much deeper, like what came from this revelation wasn't just like my romantic relationship with this particular person, it's like every romantic relationship I've ever been in.

Every family relationship I've ever had, every business, girl, every business relationship I've ever had.

how many dynamics have I been in where this version of myself has been in the driver's seat?

And really taking the time to evaluate it, feel it, understand it, and then come to a place where then my needs, my wants are a lot more clear.

And then getting to, you know, what is it called?

Like conscious uncoupling, you know, like conscious uncoupling to then be like, this is the new baseline.

Is there still alignment?

And where it is that we see ourselves, you know?

And that was really empowering, not just for me, I think for the both of us, but especially for me, like getting to a place where I was like,

Oh no, like I'm allowed to change.

I'm allowed to evolve and I'm allowed to exist in this so much differently.

And if I'm capable of doing it, what actions are you doing that proves that you are committed to the same thing?

And that takes time.