Belle Burden
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
And I wrestled with it later again, and then I think there was... Bargaining probably was there, and then acceptance definitely was.
I ended there.
I really agree.
I really agree.
And I had to get there on my own because I thought I could land on an answer and that that was key to being able to accept this.
And I never got that answer.
I didn't get it from him.
I didn't get it from my detective work.
I just never got it.
I went through all of those whys.
You couldn't get to the why?
I couldn't get to it.
And I worried actually that readers would be frustrated that I never get to it.
But I think what happened for me... I think it's done the opposite.
I think that's right.
And what changed it for me is shifting the focus.
Because I wasn't going to... It was like trying to get blood from a stone.
I wasn't going to get it from him.
So I had to shift the focus to myself.
My stepmother is a family therapist and she uses this trick where you picture...